Funeral ettiquette question part 2?

Question

Reenie you made me think of something else. Monday night I went to the funeral home a dear old friend of mine passed. There were girls there wearing mini skirts and tube tops these were the grands kids of the lady that died. What ever happened to showing respect?

Answer 1

i wonder the same thing many time at old friends passing

at one funeral the great grand daughter was wearing a seethrough shirt! the important thing is to just be proper yourself and not worry about everyone else because everyone is thinking the same thing you are.

Answer 2

I feel that things are going a bit overboard.

Answer 3

respect is an attitude not a dress code.

these girls are showing respect by turning up in everyday clothes, not dreary rags as dictated by the fashion police as suitable for funerals.

I am attending a funeral tomorrow, a family thing, and I am wearing my best purple velvet trousers as I will be warm and comfortable, enabling me to focus on the person whose life is celebrated, not how cold/hard/squashed the chapel is!

Answer 4

I see nothing wrong with cheering up the men attending the funeral.  You can be sad and respectful while handing out free chubbies.  It's a win win.

Answer 5

Although any thing seems to go, I believe decorum must be taught by the parents.  Parents are so busy I guess they think proper behavior will be learned by osmosis.  I have discovered somewhat belatedly that things don't happen that way. Kids need a little direction and if they want to succed in life, must learn respectful behavior.

Answer 6

I HATE THAT!!!!  Good grief it is such a sign of disrespect truly!!  A good friend of ours Mom passed and my Sister in laws (low life) husband shows up in and untucked polo shirt and a pair of jeans.  I was driving to the funeral which was an hour away.  I simply told him that he was improperly dressed, he waved me off then I explained to him that it was a total lack of respect to our friend and though he may feel okay being that I don't and if he was to even think of getting into my car dressed liked that he had another thought coming.  He went home and changed.

Answer 7

First of all I am deeply sorry for your loss. I pray that your friend rests in peace.

Etiquette is no longer taught in schools, or even really in the home . Decorum and respect are becoming arcane , which is a shame because they really aid in ones life. By the age of seventeen I had read the entire Miss Manners book of etiquette, and I defiantly think I am better for it.

I am sorry about your  friend and I pray for you as well.

Answer 8

We've lost respect for the dead in America. Other nations revere them, but that is because of a strong spiritual standpoint. Here, anything goes. Showing respect is something we must impress upon our children. Unfortunately, this must take place from individual to individual. Hopefully, more will be like you and see the problem and begin to implement the solution. Thank you, and blessings.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry for your loss. Were these children teenagers whose parents had control over what they wore? I DO NOT think tube tops and mini skirts are acceptable in this situation, and any kid with any kind of decent upbringing would know that. HOWEVER: In the case of a 21 year old...well, he'd probably enjoy the view from up in heaven! I guess the bottom line is you have to consider the person who passed away. Would they care what people were wearing or just be glad the people showed up to honor their life?

I haven't been to many funerals, but I'll let you know tomorrow how all the kids were dressed tonight.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dear friend.

Answer 10

Here again, is an example of the family (mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, grands) not being involved in the proper rearding of children and passing down proper etiquette.  Their mother should have made sure they were properly dressed to attend the wake and/or funeral.

Answer 11

In my younger days and being in the Funeral Business, this would have been a No No.  But now, wearing black is not even a guideline you have to follow.  Since everything has gone so casual, I guess it is o.k. although, I don't think my grandchildren would have done it.