Funeral food. When taking a casserole over after someone has died do you take it while it is piping hot?

Question

Do you cook it and take it cold with instructions on how to reheat? I haven't known this guy too long, his mom died. Do I take the casserole to his father's house where the family is gathered or do I catch him while he is at his house and give it to him to take? I have only met the father twice. I haven't had any experience with people dying. I guess I have been very lucky. Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

take it to the party... and stop being bombed out about dead people- you will be one --- one day! And as far as cold or hot... cold, its not a dinner, more than likely it will be buffet style.. cold food is better (but not frozen.. room temp will do)

Answer 2

either way will be fine.  but either way, take instructions on how to heat it with you.   its really considerate of you to do this, when someone close to you dies its hard to concentrate on normal day to day stuff at first, so whatever you do will they will be really thankful for.

Answer 3

Yeah, I'd say take it hot AND with instructions on reheating.  This way you cover all bases.  It's nice of you to make them a dish.

Will you make me one?

Answer 4

Taking it over cold/frozen with instructions is not a bad option either.  A lot of times, people aren't going to be thinking about cooking after the death of a loved one.

A friend of mine passed away a few years ago, leaving behind her husband and three children.  We pitched in a cooked a few dishes, froze them and gave them to her husband with cooking instructions.  It really helped out.

Answer 5

Take it to his father's house for the reception.

Answer 6

~~If you know it will be eaten right away, then it would be very nice to have it heated and ready to eat. If you aren't sure, then give it to them cold with heating instructions. You thoughtfulness will really be appreciated either way!~~

Answer 7

You are a kind person.  May good fortune continues to shine on you.

Please deliver it cold, with instructions on how to reheat included with a note of sympathy and your name on it, to the father's house.  The temperature is so that the family is not under any pressure to eat your casserole first.  The instructions are to make things easier for the family.  The name on the note is to help the family return the casserole dish to the correct person, assuming other kind souls are also bringing the family funeral food.  The note also serves the purpose of a keepsake.  The location is both the logical choice (since that is where the family is gathered) and the more considerate choice (so your friend has one less thing to worry about in this difficult time).

Answer 8

Bring it when it is hot is deluxe supreme, if not then tell them how to easily reheat it..  You are a very nice person to do this, you have no idea how comforting food is at a time like this.

Answer 9

if it all posible yes but cold dishes are bettr because the food will set out for a few hours