Funeral help ?

Question

my uncle died all of a sudden late tuesday night i found out about it wednesday afternoon from my cousin - we live 1200 miles apart and now i did find cheap airline tickets to attend the funeral - but i keep going back and forth over it as my daughter starts the 2nd grade on the day of the funeral and we don't want to drag our children to a funeral anyways as they are to young for it - and well i suppose i could go alone but there has not been a day apart from my husband or kids since before we even got married and i just cant bare going somewhere without them

i really don't know my uncle well - i mean i spend a few minutes talking to him at a family bbq each year when i visit my grandparents but other then that we don't talk since i live so far away

i love my aunt and my cousin and feel horribly bad for them but i just don't really feel that i am needed there but then on the other hand i feel bad because i feel like i should be obligated to go to his funeral because its my aunts husband

my grandparents have told me that if i wanted to come i should come but that they really did not see any reason for me to come all this way for it since i didnt know him all that well

Answer 1

Maybe attend the wake (hoping they have one).

Answer 2

If you weren't close, and it doesn't sound like you were, don't worry about it.  I couldn't make it to my dad's funeral 1 1/2 weeks ago (2000 miles and health problems), but went to my former father-in-law's funeral today (about 20 miles away, I had a ride, and that family is still like my own).

My family understood, and many of my inlaws still "love" me.