Future Mother In Law?!?!?!?!?!?

Question

Im 23, asian and have been with my bf for 2 and half years now. I met his parents straight away and we got on really well. But now the question of marraige has come up, me and my bf have agreed that we want to get financially stable and get married in about 1-2 years time. We now want to tell the rest of the family to make it official. We have spoke to my parents and they have given there blessings and really like my bf but his mum has said that she needs to tink about it? Im really confused!!! This is a love marriage not arranged and we want her blessings (his dad is cool with it)!!! I really don't no what to make of this...any ideas???? Thanx

Answer 1

You don't need her permission.

Let the old bag delude herself that she has a say in the matter..but just remember...she doesn't!

Answer 2

Well, at least she didn't have a strong immediate reaction. If she's not sure how she feels, it's good that she's willing to just consider it a bit. Or, she might just be yanking your chain. Either way, the best thing to do is stay calm and go about your business. She'll tell you how she feels in due time. Right now, there's nothing to react to, so don't react.

Answer 3

You shouldnt be worried. his mom probobaly is just not ready to "let go" of her son. It doesnt mean she doesnt like you. She obviously just needs some time to think about it and get used to it because (just like for you) this will be a big change in her life. So, she just wants to make the right descision for you and ur bf! Good luck and congrats!!

Answer 4

I would not worry too much about it, it is not uncommon for the mother of a son to feel a little anxious about a new women coming in as a priority in her sons life.

just relax for the time being and flow with things, demonstarte that you are making a commitment and want to be a positive inclusion into his life and she should warm up to the idea. after all she is also gaining a daughter and potentially grandhildren. you need to show you will live upto these responsibilities.

good luck

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Answer 5

She just needs to 'have some power'.  She doesn't really have any...but you can ease the way for your future hubby and children by letting her think that she does and 'allowing' her to say yes.  

Think about it....if she says 'no', she will loose out on a good relationship with you and her son....she won't say no....be patient...be kind.  Don't be a doormat, but just on this, allow her the time she needs to 'give' her son to you.  AND thank her 'for him'....cos you will be int eh same position in 20-30 years time...and it hurts a bit.

Answer 6

I think you're going to have to ask her what is worrying her. is it the marriage, the wait or something else? don't take it to heart. I'm sure it's not you or you'd have known about it before this. lol

Answer 7

She probably doesn't want to see another women become the first priority in her son's life. If she likes you then she will come around-she has to-do what you want and she can deal with it!

Answer 8

He must be momma's boy.  Mothers are always soo afraid of letting their son's go and fathers are always afraid of letting their daughters go.

Answer 9

Whats to think about, if you love each other what she thinks has nothing to do with it. I know you don't want to upset her but she needs to let her son live his life how and with who he wants and if she makes that difficult it will only be her that loses out in the end.

Answer 10

What does she need time to think about. Your boyfriend isn't proposing to her.

Answer 11

Maybe she was hoping that you'd get married quickly so she can have some grandchildren sooner. If you got on well before then I'm sure she doesn't have a problem with you and if the dad is okay then I think it will work out just fine.

Does your boyfriend have any ideas what she's thinking? Is there anyone else like an aunty or sister that might be able to shed some light? Maybe she just needs some time to get her head around the idea that her little boy is planning to get married.

Whatever it is I'm sure it will be okay in the end.

Answer 12

Ignore anyone else. It's your's and your bf's big day. Don't let anyone ruin it.

Get your bf to tell it's going to happen with or without her blessing, but you would rather have her blessing.

Don't let her ruin things for you.

Goodluck with it :)