I don't want to approach my son because he will only defend her and say FDIL and I are two different people, which is true. But I am sick of her behavior because I feel she is trying to keep me out of her life and my son's life and their life together. I was also raised that you include your mother-in-law, so I can't understand why she is so exclusive. A few examples of her behavior:
I called her once by her nickname and she promptly told me that only her family and friends called her that.
I was visiting while her mother, aunts and female cousins were there. They were all laughing and cooking in the kitchen and it sounded like they were having fun. I went and asked if I could help. Everyone went dead silent and FDIL told me no, that they had it covered. She made me feel as if I was intruding on her time with her family and I felt unwelcome.
Then one time a younger cousin of FDIL's came over to raid her closet. FDIL and her cousin promptly went upstairs and stayed for the rest of my time in the home she and my son share.
Lastly, some of FDIL's relatives went mountain climbing this summer. FDIL's (who has family in England) entire family flew out to welcome them home and FDIL and another cousin were having a huge family party. FDIL said it was the first time her entire family would be here on the West Coast. I was not even invited.
Now, I know that I don't have a perfect relationship with FDIL, obviously, but it is hurtful to be so disregarded. Why is she so exclusive?
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