GIRLS: Can you help me out here??

Question

I had a completely random hook up one month ago exactly and I absolutely can not get over it. I have no idea why, but for some reason I can't stop thinking about this guy. But the problem is that he is a huge player so I know I can't get involved with him. But I just can't seem to let him go. I only spoke to him once three weeks ago after the hook up, but it was just causal not about anything really. I thought that I would get over this by now. I have met new people, got a new job, what's the deal? What can I do?

Answer 1

Concentrate on getting to know someone else! You've already said it yourself, "He's a player so you can't get involved with him." Save yourself the trouble! If he's a player, you already know he's not still thinking about you too. If he were, you would've had the chance to talk to him more than once in the past 3 weeks.

Men aren't complicated. If he was interested beyond the "hook-up," you'd already know it!

Answer 2

You want him because you can't have him. Truly if he is a player, you didn't mean anything to him. He probably doesn't even remember your name. Just move on. You are wasting your time even thinking about him. Even if you did date him again, he is just going to break your heart if he is a player and you know it. Call your girl friends and do something today.....you have been ignoring them.

Answer 3

Not be stupid and move on.  You said it yourself...he's a player.  Would you repeatedly smash your hand with a hammer if it hurt the first time?

You are one step away from being another one of those girls who complain that all guys are insensitive b/c you get played by the players that YOU chose.

Answer 4

get another guy and forget about him

Answer 5

I think you should talk to him about how you are feeling. Maybe he feels the same way, and you guys could go on a date to see if you still have feelings for him.

If he doesn't have feelings for you, just know that everything happens for a reason, he just might not be the guy for you!!

Good Luck!!  

Answer 6

Try to find a new love interest.

Answer 7

ok no offence and trying not to hurt you but if he is a player than he probably acted the way he did around you so that you would feel like this. all he wants is your ***.

just remember that hes a player and hes a huge act. hes not an actual person.

i know how you feel and im trying to get over this guy who cheated on me. best thing to do is just try to get over him.

Answer 8

You'll get over it soon. But he only wants your bod, not your personality or brains. Don't try to be bf/gf if he's a player. Most likely, he hooked up with someone else right before he hooked up with you, then after you someone else. But if it was your first time, still, don't try to make it more. 70% of guys are players, and you really can't change a player. Find a boy out there who not only likes your bod, but your personality. It'll come soon.

Answer 9

Typical female idiocy! I bet the guy was a real bad boy wasn't he? Oh well you can't help it ur a woman and operate soley off of emotion. Women just can't resist the jerk bad boy type. My advice is to put your girlie little emotions aside and think with ur brain not ur heart! That's a mistake many people make. If you follow ur heart it will s***w you over.