GIRLS HELP: I need some opinion

Question

Im in quite a pickle. I just recently got out a 4 year relationship, and Im still confused about it. Everything was great then one day she just said I cant stay with you, I dont feel the same and left me. She said that she had been thinking that for quite sometime but she never mentioned it. We didnt talk for about 5 months but now we've been talking everyday. I still love her and feel the same for her. She says that she wishes things were different and that we were together but that she doesnt like me in that matter any longer. The reason we started talking again is because im leaving in a couple of months for the army and she says she didnt want our relationship to stay the way it does. We hang out and pretty much act like we did before when we were together. I dont know what to do, or what to think. Does she need time? maybe she was scared because she knew i wanted to marry her. oh btw were both virgins so we dont have s*x, im 22 shes 21. I know im young and Ill eventually surpass this but Im so confused. Are there any girls out there that have felt like this before or like my girlfriend? what was your reason? Thanks for your opinions.

Answer 1

sounds like she's confused. she loves you, wants you, needs you but at the same time, she doesn't.

Seems to me that you are her security blanket and she doesn't know how to deal with the fact that you're leaving for a little while.

Did she leave you because someone else was in the pic? maybe she's not a V anymore... ever think of that?  

Answer 2

Allot of guys feel young and confused when they go into the military but that goes away real soon especially under the corporate/political system we have today ,,,, You grow up real fast when you are used in some nonsensical war somewhere that the corporate/political system has drummed up or instigated somewhere to make money off of ,,,, They use the average American as a resource to make their money for them and supply them with babies to serve as cannon fodder in their wars some where on the planet ,,,, //

Answer 3

I'm neither a girl nor experienced in things of this nature, but it sounds like you can just let things stay the way they are until you leave. The situation may change while you're away.  If everything is still the same when you return, you can always re-post the question.

Answer 4

Sometimes it happens; people fall out of love for no reason. She is being selfish though by wanting to keep communicating. The best way to get over her (which is what you need to do) is to stop all communication and let yourself heal.

Answer 5

She obviously likes you as a friend but nothing more. So don't be confused as this is pretty clear. Men always tend to see a woman's friendship as more then it actually is.

Answer 6

Yes that's how I exactly felt when I broke up with my first boyfriend. We did et back together but then our relationship just suddenly disapeared and lost the sparks.

I then fell in love with someone else but when I asked him out, he said know and he knew clearly I had feelings for him. I am falling for my first boyfriend again.

As for s*x, that's up to you. You don't have to do it because s*x doesn't equal love.

I think she will need time and I thought if I gave my first boyfriend and my crush time, one of them would eventually fall for me or that I would move on from them.

But I know exactly how you feel. *hugs*