My girlfriend of 20 broke up with me six weeks ago. I don’t know whether she met someone else or just lost interest. On the last day I saw her she told me that she'd been abused when she was younger and had Herpes, and that she didn't tell me before because she was terrified i'd leave her. She also behaved very immaturely in the last few weeks of our relationship. She’s come through a lot – several rapes, a drug addiction, 2 suicide attempts and a violent ex boyfriend and done amazingly well. I am proud of her but naturally very angry with her as I could now have Herpes. On the other hand I still care for her and really need to see her or talk to her again to tell her how I feel and get some closure on this, but she’s completely cut off. Bearing in mind that her birthday is in two weeks, how should I/would you go about getting in touch? I've text her asking how things are, but she didn't reply.
Would you:
a) Put you anger and pride aside, temporarily, try to be friendly until you can get to meet her, and then tell her how you feel and how irresponsible she was?
b) Send her an email explaining how you feel and how irresponsible you think she was, but that you still care for her and would like to see her again and stay in touch, and risk her not responding at all and never seeing her again?
c) Text her two weeks before her birthday and tell her that you’re over the break up and happy to be friends, then call her on her birthday to try to arrange a meeting – and then when you meet tell her how you feel.
d) Wait till her birthday and send her a card card telling her that you’re happy to be friends, and to call you sometime? (enclosing a CD of things she loved that you downloaded for her when you were together). Let her get in touch, and then when/if you see her tell her how you feel?
e) option (d) then if she doesnt call or respond option (b)
...Any help here would be really appreciated as this situation has been driving me crazy for months…
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