GIRLS!!!?? that ARENT virgins?

Question

ive been with my boyfriend for a year and 9 months and i love him but we still haven't you know done THAT and I am pretty sure he wants to but I'm scared how its going to hurt does it hurt the first time ? do u bleed? hows it feel

Answer 1

It didn't hurt me and I didn't bleed, however, if you are scared and don't feel ready then it probably will hurt! x

Answer 2

yes it hurts! not all girls bleed. you just feel a lot of pressure

Answer 3

First... really be *sure* you wanna "do it" with this guy.

You're a virgin, and your first full-on s*x *should* be with someone you're really gonna want to *be* that intimate with for a while, and I don't just mean the physical intimacy because there's a lot of mental and emotional stuff that comes with the hormones and hangups that fill the sexual territory between partners. You'll be MUCH better and happier for choosing such a person, even if that "while" only turns out to be a few weeks... trust me on this point, OK?

First-timing can be pretty disappointing for girls, not just because it's often painful (at least at first), but also because nervousness and awkwardness for both of you can make it very difficult for *you* to concentrate on your own pleasure. You don't have to worry too much about *his* pleasure: except for some possible emotional stuff, he's going to enjoy it a *lot* - even his first time. Young men are lucky that way, sure, but it's also a very rare man indeed (but not at all a rare woman) who can have several orgasms in less than half an hour. :-)

Advice? Tips? Good things to plan for and think about?

Make sure you have lots of privacy for quite a long time (two hours or more is a good idea) because not only might there be some uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments along the way, but there's more to the first time than just "doing it", and you'll have a lot of stuff to talk about afterwards - you do *not* want any of this to be interrupted.

When it comes to intercourse, tell your guy that *you* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if you just chicken out) and that it's up to him to remember that when you tell him "stop".

Don't even *try* unless you're very turned on and very slippery... a couple of orgasms first will also help your v****a to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if you don't get very wet no matter how horny you are, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until you're comfortable.

That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom. Yes, the condom. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents"... or sometimes "parents with STDs".

Any pain you may feel will go away in a few minutes to a couple of days (sometimes there's a little bruising), and after it's over with, each time will be *much* better if you stick to everything above.

Oral s*x is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it. Doing it until the person receiving has an o****m is nicest, but it isn't necessary. (Oh... and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman... there's no need to be shaved unless you like it that way yourself).

Answer 4

s*x is something you gradually work towards. I would suggest lots of foreplay before actual intercourse (Dry humping, oral, etc…) My boyfriend and I fooled around for about a month before having intercourse. It didn’t really hurt the first time it just felt uncomfortable (a really tight fit, lol) and I bled a little afterwards (when I went pee). Take your time and enjoy it.  

Answer 5

First of all, how old are you? Age can sometimes make a difference. If you are too young and your body is not ready for this, it will hurt. If you are a virgin then you will most likely bleed when the hymen is broken. I am in no way an advocate of young girls having s*x, but if you are ready some things to try so that it doesnt hurt are:

use lubricant, try to relaxe, take deep breaths, and go slow.

Answer 6

well for me it KINDA hurt, and the bleeding wasn't as much as i thought it would be. but after your first time YOU WILL LOVE ITT!

use protection.  

Answer 7

actually, my first time was nerve racking. i mean no matter what you hear or what people tell you, every girl experiences it differently. It does hurt to a point. Especially, if you don't relax. And yes you bleed. Some girls bleed a lot (i mean not extensive or anything) and some bleed less. I bled a little bit. went away after a few restroom visits. And your sore. just be sure to tell your b/f to take it slow when you guys do it for the first time. And b/c its so nerve racking the first time around it wouldn't be a bad idea to have some lube handy. The slicker...the better and more you both will enjoy. have fun but be safe!!

oh and once you relax and the pain goes away...it will feel wonderful!!! :)  

Answer 8

everyones different. i bleed but it didnt hurt. but after the first time, its incredible.

Answer 9

Good advice from the above answers especially number 2, thumbs up on that one matey.

You can download this free ipaper ebook of a translation of the Kama Sutra http://www.scribd.com/doc/4826549/The-Ka... and read through it together and prior to actual intercourse you can explore foreplay and find out what pleases you both etc.

This is very informative without being pornographic and will help your first time together be an enjoyable one by taking some of the guesswork out of sexual intimacy.

[Illustrated versions are also available but for obvious reasons i will not link to them here so have to be found via the search function on scribd, which is an excellent online library and all books are free downloads as well as can be read online, save to your favourites for future use. Peace!]

Answer 10

First couple times sucked for me. Now is way better, but im married. It wasn't all that great when I was dating.

Answer 11

Yeah, it hurts. It's unpleasant. But it's not excruciating. You will be fine. Some girls bleed, but not always. I didn't.  And it definitely gets better after the first few times.  Make sure you use protection and have fun!