*GIRLS*how hard is it to deal when your boyfriend is in the military?

Question

my boyfriend just enlisted into the us marine corps. hes going into infantry as a machine gunner. i love him more than life itself & h**l be gone for 5 months at first, and then 2 years. i know its gonna be hard, but i need to know how hard. i dont know if ill be able to do it. i need advice on this....please help =(

Answer 1

It's hard but you have to remember what you're waiting for, the love of your life.  You have to keep yourself busy, you can do that by supporting him and writing him.  Get involved in the things you like to do and keep your eyes on the prize, a man who has more strength and character than most men in the world.

Good luck, you will end up stronger than you ever thought possible.

Answer 2

really hard.

Answer 3

Like Bethany said this is more of a choice.  If your choice is to stay by an amazing man who happens to be in the military then you'll find ways to make that work.  The key is to belong enough to yourself that you don't die every time he has to leave while belonging enough with him that you two are still a couple.  

As a girlfriend any recognition you get from the military depends on his commander authorizing it.  Some will let girlfriends be added to the information lists and some won't.  If his commander will he'll need to add you to his command paperwork as someone he would like to have information and you may be added to the phone tree and allowed to take part in the FRG (Family Readiness Group) if you're close enough to the base.

But your best bet for getting military lifestyle support and questions answered is to join an on-line group because they are much more accepting of girlfriends.  Search for terms like military spouse support on google and yahoo and tons of groups will come up.  Also search anyplace you network already like MySpace, Facebook, CafeMom, iVillage or Yahoo groups.  Sometimes you can also search for groups based on your BF's unit or the base he's at.  Every group has it's own flavor so keep looking until you find one you like.  

Answer 4

I'm not a girl, sorry but just cling onto your boy and hope he's fine overseas. You have to be confident and loyal in yourself and try to keep contact with him via phone/internet if possible. It is possible since I remember using phone cards to talk to my ex while in Diyala, Iraq. It cost so d**n much, though.

If you love him more than life itself, you should be fine. I was gone for 2 years and my ex decided to leave me. Since then, it left a scar on me.

Best of wishes to you and your boy.

Answer 5

here is all I can tell ya is just get all you can get now and when he leaves just try not to get all prego and everthing then he will find out. just have as much fun as you can when he is gone

Answer 6

Stop saying "I don't know if I'll be able to do it" and decide whether or not your willing to commit yourself to doing it. Being a military girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/spouse is a Choice. It requires you being independent and encouraging and supporting and loving.

As a girlfriend you will receive 0 standing from the military because you are not a dependent (meaning a spouse or a child). Recognize that now and appreciate that if you and he stay together you will rely on his parents for information regarding his whereabouts until he can contact you.

Boot camp is 13 weeks and its long, and hard, and its lonely. After that you have SOI to get through then deployments. During boot camp you won't hear from him at all for the first two weeks - then you'll just have an address because they do not get phone calls. SOI is slightly more lenient but not much. Deployments mean varied amounts of communication based on where he is stationed and what he has going on around him.

He has to focus on him, his training, and his job - not on how sad you are at home because you miss him.

You learn to have your own life: get a second job, take extra classes, go out with friends, hang out with your familiy, hang out with his family, pick up a new hobby, etc.

Its not an easy lifestyle but if you and he have a relationship that can last through it then its that much more rewarding.