GROUNDED FOR A MONTH?!?!? Unreasonable?????

Question

Ok, well I have been grounded for a whole month, just because I came home from my friends house at 7:30 when I said I would be home at 7. This is unreasonable, right? And what can I do to convince my mum that I should be allowed out? Jeez, it's the summer holidays :( ! Please help mee!!!!

Answer 1

Well, you came home late...you shoulda called her or something at least. So, she would've been worried about you thinking this happened or that happened...so I don't blame her for grounding you, but a whole month for 30 minutes is a little much. Apologize to her, seem really sorry. Maybe she'll let you off.

Answer 2

probelm with todays society its one extreem or the other , either the parents dont give a sh*t  or they go nuts and ground a kid for a month for being a little late.

balance people , balance

Answer 3

it depends how old you are really but still groundin someone in the 6 weeks holidays is just soo unfair. They wouldnt like it if we told them they couldnt go out wen they had tim of work :@

Try to reason with them, maybe promise that you wont do it again or say you lost track of time.

My mum & dad dont believe in groundin but if i come in late and they start tellin me off i just say i didnt have any way of tellin the time (i dnt have a watch or the time on my phone is wrong)

Hope it helps x  

Answer 4

Yeah that is a bit extreme. You should have been home on time, maybe a couple of days or more chores is reasonable, but a month is over the top in my opinion.

Just wait a few days before you talk to your mum, she'll have calmed down a bit more than now.

Answer 5

It's a little strict -- but I bet you'll be on time the next time.

Suck it up, kiddo, and be a good sport about it.  Whining just makes 'em more angry.  

Answer 6

Ummm Yeah Thats Unreasonable!

Ummmm Tell Them That Half An Hour Isnt Much Anyway And Its Better That You Were Home Late And Safe Rather Than Not Home At All, And Then Exactly What You Said To Me.... Its The Summer Holidays Lighten Up.

Hope This Helps :) x

Answer 7

i never got grounded but it's like only 30 mins whats the big deal and you were at your friend's house right? she should let you have fun over the holidayz cause you won't get much of a chance when u get back to school!

Answer 8

It depends, your Mom did call you and tell you that she needed you home by 7:00.  It sounds like she had someplace important to be and that you either delayed her getting there or made her miss her appointment.  If this was the case, then yes you deserve the grounding because you were called and told to be home on time.

If nothing was going on, no one coming over for dinner, etc., then a month seems a little long.  My son's gf is grounded for two weeks for every 10 minutes they are late if they don't call.

Answer 9

No, sorry, I agree with your mother.  She told you 7pm and you were half an hour late.  Anything could have happened to you and she was probably very worried.  She now feels she can't trust you and so you will have to behave, help her out around the house, be pleasant and responsible and I bet the grounding won't last for a month.

Answer 10

Tell her that you agree that you were wrong to be late but disagree with the severity of your punishment. Ask if you do some chores you could be let off early or something like that.

Good Luck!

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Answer 11

i got grounded for 3 months once from the computer. for coming home late i get in trouble for like 15 mins late. i can home 2 hours late last year i got grounded for 2 weeks

Answer 12

yeah I must agree that is a little much for missing your curfew.

I would just approach her and tell her how you feel. Explain that you will be more responsible and not be late again. If you have a watch make sure you let her know that you plan to use it this time. If you don't have one then go get one and tell her that you will wear it make sure your home on time from now on.

Answer 13

Your parents care about you, and 30 min. may not seem like a long time. But when your waiting for someone important to come home, it's the longest time ever. Think of it like this, 30 days for 30 minutes.

If you can't do the time, don't do the crime, and don't stay out later without calling. Your friend has a phone right?

Answer 14

that is quite harsh

do something for her like jobs without her asking u or make her a cake or just generally be nice

might work

good luck

Answer 15

it depends how old you are but you should say to your mum

im sorry about being half a hour late i didnt mean to i lost track of time it wont happen again and then be like im .. years old i think i em old enough and wise enough to start making my own desisions i em growing up to be a young adult and need to learn some how..

Answer 16

That does seem severe for a half-hour at a decent time. I could understand if you were supposed to be home at 7 and turned up at midnight.  

Perhaps you can bargain with her. Sit down together and offer her an alternative. Ask her for a week of being not allowed out and three weeks of something else (even a combination), like no TV or no text messages or cell phone use, or the computer  or something else. Have you been late before? Did you call her to say you'd be late?

Apologize, explain that you know you're sorry and try to barter with her - in a reasonable tone of voice and no teenage body language, and perhaps she will relent.

Answer 17

Sorry, there is no help for you this time.

You did the crime, so just do the time,  

Answer 18

Kind of depends on your age - if my 11 yr old accidentally came home half and hour late, I would give him an extra chore to do.

If my 13 yr old came home late, she would be grounded - length would depend on the whole situation.

I have grounded my 2nd daughter (who was 14) for 4 months before because she could have died in the situation she put herself in and then she did it again after I had talked to her about not doing it. Guess what? It worked - she hasn't gotten into trouble since.

Your parents don't want a repeat of this incident - they mean it! The best thing I can tell you is suck it up, take the grounding and learn from it.

Answer 19

did you call???

that probs why ur parents have grouned you

try reasoning with them say like what can i do to get it shortened or somthing

good luck

Answer 20

Yeah, that seems unreasonable.  

-but-

You didn't listen to her.  30 minutes isn't a "little" later than 7.  Instead of telling her you'll be a few minutes late, next time just ask her if you can come home at 7:30 and explain why.  

Do some extra chores, be nice to your parents, and maybe they'll unground you sooner.  Or talk to them that a month is too long for something that isn't that big of a deal, and maybe ask to shorten it to a week or so.

Answer 21

i think a month is too much i would say a week. but she can do whatever she wants, so you basically just have to listen otherwise she can make it longer =[.

Answer 22

no that is not unreasonable. listen young lady go and sit down and imagine you where watching your life on tv, now imagine your mum being your character and you being your mums character. the point is you have to put yourself in your mums shoes and see how she is feeling .if you don't understand this you should not be allowed out at all. your parents have a responsibility to keep you safe from predators of any-kind so if your mother says you are grounded and you need to learn to keep your room tidy and to clean up after yourself at everything washing cleaning well everyone has to do it and you cant get out of it otherwise you will never learn to respect your parents and what they do for you . like go to work and feed you ,clothe you, pick up after you, make sure you have a full belly.etc. your are being selfish there are so many people in this world that are born with diseases and live in countries with no food and no parents and you are upset about get a month grounding, you must be a very heartless girl right now. think and be and do positive things and positivity will follow you, but if you are negative ,cruel and just plain rude negativity will follow you what choices for your life will you make. i hope its a positive outcome. now go give your mum a hug and be understanding.

Answer 23

Uh. Yes persuade to her nicely. No body wants to spend holiday at home right ?

Good Luck.