GUYS ONLY! Who is right? My husband or Me?

Question

My husband HATES answering questions. Any type of question. If I think he is lying or something, I may try to question him a little more, but never to a HUGE extent. Now ANY time I ask a question he gets mad. He has been like this since we got married. One time I called him and Said “Whatcha doin” he got offended and acted like I didn’t trust him. If he is out and about and I call him and ask what he is doing or where he is at, he gets offended. If someone calls him and I ask who it is, he will tell me, but if I say, “Oh, what did they want?” he gets mad. Like last night he was talking in his sleep. Today…around 1pm central standard time he mentioned something about dreaming, when made me remember last night. I told him he was talking in his sleep and asked him what he was dreaming aobut. It was a normal conversation and he got mad because I shouldve woke him up and asked him, or asked him in the morning. He said I waited too long to ask that question. He will not go to counseling with me and it is really hurting my trust in him, because since it is sooo hard to get information out of him and he gets offended everytime I ask him something, I think he really IS up to something. What can I do and who is right? HELP!

Answer 1

Leave him alone, don't be a pest.  when he wants to open up to you he will.  

Answer 2

I had some insight into this.  Too bad you don't want to hear it because I have a v****a.  

Answer 3

I think he's probably cheating on you.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but overly defensive or secretive people are typically cheating.  If he's not cheating, he's certainly hiding something.  He probably got so upset with you about asking what he was dreaming about because he thought he may have blurted out some kind of secret he was keeping from you in his sleep.

If he won't attend counseling with you I don't know what to tell you -- the marriage probably isn't going to work out.  If he's that insistent on being so secretive and such things are going to go south fast.  There should be no secrets between the two of you, you're married for Pete's sake!  

You need to sit him down and explain how you're feeling.  Tell him you're not okay with the way things are going, and based on all the attitude he's been giving you lately you feel like you are unable to trust him.  Ask him to work things out with you, and resolve to be more open with you.  While you're at it, ask him why he's so secretive in the first place!  Maybe he'll explain.  Bottom line is he needs to be more open with you, and willing to work on the relationship.  If he can't do that, may as well walk.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I would get offended with all the questions if I didn't have an honest and truthful answer.

On the other hand, I would get offended with all the questions if I was doing nothing deceitful and my trust was questioned.

Answer 5

Your husband sounds very paranoid.  Either he has something to hide.. or he's smoking pot.

Answer 6

Well, do this..ignore him, ...SILENCE IS GOLDEN... when he can talk to you nicely, then talk back..........or...... secretly check ouut the puter and cell to see if hes seeing another girl, YOUR RIGHT!!

Answer 7

Well, stop being so nosey. What's the problem? If he's been this way the whole time, it's not like he's gonna change.

Answer 8

You are 100% right.He is hiding something to you.

Answer 9

I think he is guilty as h*ll and is trying to take his guilt out on you. This man needs to grow up and stop behaving like a hyper little boy.  You deserve polite answers, even if you ask him,"What are you doing."  He's a big baby.  I think he needs help and if he doesn't get help, he'll end up divorced and living in his mama's basement where he can explode at HER for asking him questions.

Answer 10

LOL @ Lucy!

I'm gonna say you're right. Your husband sounds like he needs bipolar medicine.

Answer 11

Been there done that he is hiding something all you have to do is catch him know. While it is hard to catch a liar start writing down some of the questions and answers so you can go back to them at a latter date and see if he's changed his answer.  Good Luck