GUYS PLZ HELP ME UNDERSTAND!!?

Question

My boyfriend has told me that he never feels hurt, well he has told me that some things I've said have hurt him, but it's more of an anger than actual hurt. Yea I know this sounds confusing but I'm hoping some guys will understand what I'm trying to say and try to clarify what my bf meant by that. Yea I know girls are more emotional, etc. but I'm not sure that all girls can feel hurt as deeply as I have felt it and it actually stung to hear my boyfriend say that because it makes me feel if like we broke up that i would just be crying the whole time while he'd be angry for a little while then just go back to his normal life. CAN ANY GUYS OUT THERE HELP ME WITH THIS ONE?!

Answer 1

First, it's NOT true that all females are "more emotional" than all males. That's a myth.

Different people experience and express emotions somewhat differently.

Your bf reacts to feeling hurt by them feeling angry. Deal with it. People vary.

Why are you anticipating breaking up?

What you're doing is taking his reaction (responding to hurt by becoming angry) as evidence he doesn't care about you. That's just silly. You aren't identical to each other; that's no reason to conclude he doesn't feel as much toward you as you feel towards him.

You need ot accept him for how he is (or not), and not expect him to be identical to you in what he feels, why, and how he expressed feelings.

Answer 2

It sounds as if he's confuse and is not able to identify his own true feelings. Hurt is hurt no matter what the situations are. He has not analyzed his feelings. This is evident.

Now, look at the cause and affect. Now if the pain comes from him being angry, he is actually a bit selfish and this is why I tell you this. He is hurt only of his own feelings. Now, if he's hurt due to what you said to him, in this situation what you say really matters and causing hurt/pain, which is indicative of him caring about what you say.

Some words does hurt but working through the pain, listening to each others concerns and not being defensive when one address an issue is what helps a relationship to succeed.

I hope I have helped you in understanding personalities.