GUYS!: Please let me know the thought process behind this!?

Question

My ex dumped me months ago because he wanted to sleep around and hang out with his single guy friends. We were even talking about getting engaged. It was so sudden and he was so mean about it and literally kicked me out of the house. I almost went to the hospital because of the panic attack I had. He said "good, I always wanted to see someone freak out in person". Mind you, I did NOTHING wrong and maybe I was a little clingy but not that much!

I was devoted to him, cooked him dinner, let him have guys night out, was romantic, etc. I was devastated and took me months to recover. But I moved on and got my own place and started hanging out with my friends. I even had to deal with the indignity of running into him on his dates but I tried to keep my chin up.

But I never lost the love for him despite how he treated me. But I never let him know that. I made sure that I will never call him nor bother him in any way. So couple of months ago, he called me and said that he wanted to try to get back together. But after sleeping with me he will convenintly change his mind. After this happening twice, I told him to lose my number.

Now I recenlty met some platonic guy friends and they are great. They treat me almost like a sister and we go out, go to dinner, go on road trips. Out of the blue, my ex is going around how he is still "f*cking" me and telling me that I am ugly, stupid and embarrassing to be around. Please note, I NEVER contacted him, called him, stalked him or even talked about him. I know he is a jerk, but to all guys out there, what are his thought processes?! What do you think is really going on?!!

note: he is almost 30 years old

Answer 1

His thought process is, he just realized that you were the best thing in his life, and the only way he can make him feel like a man is to go on a smear campaign. This is about his loser attitude. Don't listen to him or the negative things he saying behind your back. It just makes him look bad and bitter. He did you a favor to end the relationship because he is bad news and jealous that you have moved on in a positive way.

You are lot better off than without this guy, he is showing his true colors.

And you are a smart and beautiful woman who is doing well in life and he is mad that you are happy.

Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

From a girl:

He's a jerk. He only wants what he can't have. He just wants to have s*x with you. Ignore the jerk, move on, and find someone who treats you like a queen. This guy is definitely not worth your time, nor energy.