GUYS: if it was your really good friend?

Question

My male bestfriend and his other friend invited me to come to a bar with them. A night-out for fun. Though he knew it wasn't my thing to do, I came anyway since he was only visiting and be leaving on the third week. I didn't want to spoil the fun anyway. But towards the evening and my friend got a little more drunk and started dancing with everyone. All of a sudden everyone wants to be friends with him and so i was left to pend for myself. His other friend wasn't helping either and i actually felt stupid following her around.

But hey, I stayed for him since it had been 9 years since we've seen each other. I endured the crowd and the scene even if for one point i felt sick in my stomach having to pretend i was even having fun. There was a moment when my friend wasn't even talking to me anymore. I thought I'd hang on more but at last couldn't and i felt "this is so pathetic"

So at 2am i decided to go home. I took a cab and left. If it were your bestfriend and you invited her to come then you suddenly found out that she took the cab and went home. Wouldn't you atleast give her a call the next day if she got home safe and maybe apologize that she had to take the cab?

Do i have the reason to get mad at him? Coz that's all i feel right now, anger!

If let's say a female bestfriend of yours left the party without telling you but she told your other friend whom she's not close with. Would you have called her or sent her an sms messages to ask if she got home safe the other night? Would you apologize to her because she couldn't wait for you

Answer 1

well i'd certainly apologize and send an sms-but you say he was drunk-so is there a possibility that he must've forgotten about it?anyways its his fault and you have right to be angry,but dont show it with a bang.make an indirect approach and let him know you were hurt a lot.you did the right thing to come back.

Answer 2

well its been nine years. does he have your number? i wouldn't be so worried its been nine years. your probably gonna have to wait a whole other nine years to hear from him again! lol

Answer 3

1.  you are assuming he knows what happened.  when people get drunk they often don't remember the next day what happened.  they don't even know what they did.  this is likely in your case.  how can he apologise when he probly has no idea what happened.

2.  alcohol causes a lot of problems because of these things.  it caused your friend to not be so considerate of you.  it caused all these problems.  excessive alcohol is extremely harmful to relationships because it makes people use really bad judgment.  

3.  being around people who are drinking a lot will lead to heartbreak over and over.  the anger you have only hurts you, try to look at it as learning a lesson about how people drinking alcohol behave.

Answer 4

8 years ....people change baby     but it stills his fault  

Answer 5

You are bringing gender into the issue,which suggests to me that it is an issue somehow.Could it be that you expected more from him because he is a man that you are into?