GUYS!: what is the REAL reason why he is being an A$!?

Question

My ex dumped me months ago because he wanted to sleep around and hang out with his single guy friends. We were even talking about getting engaged. It was so sudden and he was so mean about it and literally kicked me out of the house. I almost went to the hospital because of the panic attack I had. He said "good, I always wanted to see someone freak out in person". Mind you, I did NOTHING wrong and maybe I was a little clingy but not that much!

I was devoted to him, cooked him dinner, let him have guys night out, was romantic, etc. I was devastated and took me months to recover. But I moved on and got my own place and started hanging out with my friends. I even had to deal with the indignity of running into him on his dates but I tried to keep my chin up.

But I never lost the love for him despite how he treated me. But I never let him know that. I made sure that I will never call him nor bother him in any way. So couple of months ago, he called me and said that he wanted to try to get back together. But after sleeping with me he will convenintly change his mind. After this happening twice, I told him to lose my number.

Now I recenlty met some platonic guy friends and they are great. They treat me almost like a sister and we go out, go to dinner, go on road trips. Out of the blue, my ex is going around how he is still "f*cking" me and telling me that I am ugly, stupid and embarrassing to be around. Please note, I NEVER contacted him, called him, stalked him or even talked about him. I know he is a jerk, but to all guys out there, what are his thought processes?! What do you think is really going on?!!

note: he is almost 30 years old

Answer 1

well it sounds to me that he's just plain immature and a total dumb-fu*k

you sound like a vary good woman to be with  

I'm 1/2 his age but i still understand that that's just out of the question to still be called a man and act like that i hope you move on to find yourself a good guy and have a long happy life

hope it helps

Answer 2

he is jealous and stupid so dont pay attention

but if your the type to get back at a guy i have ideas

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Answer 3

First off, he kicked you out because he was scared of commitment.

And he's being an *** because he's jealous of the other guys you are haning out with.

If you want him back, keep hanging out with your new friends and just ignore him, he'll come back.  If you want him out of your life, broadcast how much more fun you're having with your new friends.

Answer 4

i'm no male, but i'm pretty sure it's because you wouldn't get back together with him. maybe he's bringing your reputation down so you can go running back to him. unsure. talk to him yourself .

Answer 5

Low self-esteem

He doesn't understand himself or why he makes the decisions he makes, they are absolutely impulsive. I don't know the whole situation, but maybe when he broke things off, he thought all the female world would flock to him. When they didn't, he remembered you. You probably treated him very well and he became spoiled. When he found no one else would treat him the same way, he decided to try you again. I don't think that in general guys understand that when one relationship ends like that, they can't just pick it right back up again whenever they decide to on down the line. 30 is a bit old for that, find someone more mature and don't try to restart a relationship that ended painfully once. It will happen again.

Answer 6

I know you said guys but I have to comment on this because its just outrageous.

He just wants to put his tiny d**k in as many poor girls as he can and he was happy to see you hurt, yet as soon as you become close to other guys he cant let you be happy and trys to bring you down?

I would advise that you change your number. Then pretend he doesnt exist. If you see him, look straight through him. If he calls, hang up. If he talks about you, say you cant remember who he is.

Honestly I had this happen to me. Just please PLEASE dont let your old feelings overrun you.

You may not feel like you want him to hurt because you loved him, but hes not going to get the message if he knows you still want him.  

Answer 7

Look you've done good for yourself in moving on.... keep having fun keep ignoring him. you are never gonna be able to have a normal relationship with this guy. He is abusive and has low self esteem and takes it out on you. Any guy in his 20's that finds a good girl that wants to settle down would do it. its obvious he has personal issues you shouldnt deal with.  

Answer 8

Sounds like one of my friends. Are talking about Rick "Big Sausage"?

Answer 9

Seems like this guy is a piece of $hit if you ask me.Most guys would appreciate a girlfriend who would do the things you did.I think he is just an immature idiot who is a mommy's boy or is a total puss.Anyway I would just keep doing what your doing and totally erase him from your thoughts.Good luck and by the way if him saying he is still f-in you tell people he has a small p***s and he takes it up the pooper.

Answer 10

I'm not a guy, but couldn't resist putting my two cents worth in. This joker's ego has been zapped. He's jealous that you went on with life instead of whining over him. He's not jealous that you are with other men dating or having fun, it's just the fact that you are still not depressed and swooning. I have met these kind of guys in person and boy is this an ego bumper for him. You go girl, enjoy life, don't spend the time giving him another thought, your real friends know who the real you are and apparently enjoy your companionship. Thank goodness that you chose to meet with folks who will treat you right instead of waiting to get thrown under the bus again.  You Go Girl!

Answer 11

This is not a regular guy who can be explained in normal terms. He is sadistic, cruel, calculating, and has no conscience. He's a sociopath. Stay far away from him, don't engage him in any way, not even to defend yourself against his rumors, keep a very far distance. He is a predator and you can't try to understand him as though he is a normal person. He's not.