Gang members bothering my 14 year old daughter?

Question

My 14 year old daughter and i recently moved in with my new husband and his 3 kids. The neighborhood is a little rough compared to where we used to live and my daughter is having trouble getting used to it. my husbands eldest son is 17 and thinks hes "a gangster" he recently had the number 4 tattooed on his back ( not sure what it represents ). But his some of his friends and messing with my daughter. the bus stops in front of a place where they gather around and they make remarks to her ( she refuses to elaborate on the remarks ). her step brother tells them to stop every now and then, but i don't think he really cares.

Im not sure if they are doing anything else but the ages look to range from 16 to 19.

Should i confront them?

Answer 1

No! From my own experience, I can honestly tell you that if YOU confront them, it will only get worse. There are two options.

A) She can "gangster" up herself and start dating one of them.

or

B) She can continue to ignore them and hold her head high. This is what I did and sure enough, they left me alone after a while. People tease to get a reaction from someone. If she doesnt react, they arent amused. However, if they become physical, call the police on the punks.

Best of luck to your daughter!

Answer 2

If it were my daughter,  I would move immediately to a less rough neigborhood. I wouldnt take any chances. She is in danger and there's only so much the cops can do. If your hubby cant move now, move anyway and have him join you later.   The first priority is getting your daughter safe. The gang members have at least given you a warning. Be grateful for that and get her out of there.  Good luck.

Answer 3

Totally! They could not only harass your child, but some sicko's go on to do the unthinkable. Watch your daughter! You need to sit down and have a talk with your step-son and husband. You need to reinforce that he needs to take care of her and stand up for her. Only he can successfully tell his friends to cut it out. They probably won't take anything else seriously.

Answer 4

well the # 4 usually reps. a gang known as "folk"  and the gang colors are black and white(my cousin used to date a guy that is in it) but anyways i would confront them about it but plz be careful.....also talk to ur step son about it!!!!  and if they still dont stop call the cops or have your daughter file a sexual harrasment charge against them and have a restraing order put on them!!!

Answer 5

Sounds like your husband does not know how to raise his son. I would knock the h**l out of him if he messed with my daughter. This c**p really makes me angry because kids these days think that gangs are cool but the problem is that they have never really gotten their *** beat.

Answer 6

That sounds like a trashy neighborhood.

Seriously, get her out.

I'm 14, and I've seen the trashier parts of our city, and wouldn't go there for the world.

And the 17 year old son?

Make him change now.

Even though some parents believe in the "free spirit", getting in that type of group is going to ruin that kid for life.

Answer 7

I don't know If they will take it seriously, or if it would just make it worse.

I would try it though.

Answer 8

This is a major big problem.   What happens when something really does "go down?"  Why is your husband letting his son get tattoos without knowing the significance?  I hate to say it, but this sounds like a complete disaster waiting to happen and you aren't doing anything about it.  Are you thinking of your daughter here at all?  Get her out of there RIGHT NOW.  Why isn't your husband confronting them?  Why is your daughter uncomfortable talking to you about what they said?  I am really scared for your daughter right now.  I hope you make a big change for your daughter's sake.

So, to answer your question:  YES, confront them!  Confront your husband, confront your step-son, raise some h*ll  !!!!!

Answer 9

no if its a real gang u need to call the police y the h**l is ur new husband allowing his 17 year old to hang out with a "gang"?!

Answer 10

Do not confront them whatever you do, that can make your whole family a target! Trust me confronting them is asking for problems! If they are "real" gangsters or even just wannabes this could lead to rape, murder, torture, harrasment...some of the times the cops won't even do anything. I highly suggest you take your daughter and get the h**l outta that neighborhood, tell your new husband are you coming with me or not? Your main responsibility is YOUR daughter, and everyone else comes second.no matter what. period.

Answer 11

This is a SERIOUS issue.  Why is your new husband allowing his 17 year old son to be involved in gangs?!  A tattoo at his age?!  I just don't get it.  You and your husband need to have a serious talk.  The safety of all the children are at stake.  I would consider moving if that is an option.  Your stepson needs to disassociate with his "gang friends" or he'll be in trouble up to his eyeballs before too long.  This is a very dangerous and destruction path the kids are on.  Get out of there SOON!

Answer 12

may I ask why you married this man knowing his kids have issues and with you having kids this wasn't smart.

Answer 13

I'd be getting the marriage annulled ASAP!!!! Very poor choices in husband, and very poor choice for you and your daughter. I'd be getting out of there before something happens, or someone ends up on drugs or dead. Why on earth would you marry someone that allowed that kind of thing!? I seriously hope your daughter makes better choices in men that you have, because that's a horrible choice on your part. Either get into some serious counseling (the whole family), or get out of there...and soon.

Your daughter is probably to scared to talk, because they are threatening to kill her or rape her if she says anything! Help her and get out.

Answer 14

u should call a cope plz this is not normal and not good for ur girl save ur lil girl plz