Garage sale and pople help?

Question

This woman who has latched on to me asked me to go garage saleing with her and I did. She was a mad woman and pushed me out of the way to get to toys and clothes. We both have children and babies. Mine is 10 months and hers is 5 months. She has issues and I really can not stand her but I am trying to be nice. She is always telling me how she will have my son's clothes and toys when he is done with them. We sold a few things to her but now my hubby says not to, because he would rather give them away to a needy family than give them to a family that has money and wpnt spend it. She frusturates me so much, I buy my son good things and her demands really irritate me. I know I don't have to and I am not going to anymore, give her first dibs that is..how do I tell her that? SHe is opininated and arrogant and her kid is ugly. Now I am being ugly but I am so upset. I saw a toy today at a garage sale and she grabbed it from me and bought it. It was for an older baby and mine would use it now but she is al about herself and the thing is she isn't poor. I'm not either, and I would gladly give it to someone else. She is a user and I am just really upset about it. How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

Just tell her that you and your husband have decided to donate your sons things to people who cant afford to buy them. Or, have a garage sale and if she wants something, she can buy it as a customer just like everyone else. If she gets mad, oh, well. You don't need a friend who treats you like that anyway. She sounds self centered and vicious.

Answer 2

Get rid of her. You don't even have to be nice about it. What do you gain from this? Obviously you only lose from it. Good toys that is. Just tell her that you can't go anymore and that you decide to keep all your baby's stuff just in case you decide to have another child. And just slowly get away after you've done that.  

Answer 3

Say to her - " here is the link to my yahoo answer question. You should read it. I mentioned you :)" Problem solved? Lol

Answer 4

Sounds like you have an inability to speak up!  If someone grabbed something out of my hands and bought it I would have said something right then and there.  If you don't speak up for yourself how in the world do you expect to teach your children to stand up for themselves.  You can be assertive without being ugly as well.

Answer 5

Next time she asks to grab something from your baby say you rather not and you already have plans to donate it to needy families and it is something your husband and you both decided.

If she keeps insisting just say something rude to her because she is obviously being rude to you. Tell her to stop acting needy and if she wants stuff ur baby has she can buy it.

If she aint happy with it then forget her. I would have a llllllooooooonnnnnnnggggg time ago!

Answer 6

I don't think it's about having the money or not. We have four kids and are fairly fortunate on the financial issue, but I still like to save money- you don't get rich by spending every cent.

Aside from that, this is about the woman's pushiness and rudeness toward you,and the fact that she has obviously leeched on with a vengeance. My guess is it's because she thinks she *can* be pushy and rude to you. And then YOU end up angry...oh, I know that cycle- there are some people who, because you are nice to them, they think they can take advantage of you. The only way out with this sort is to cut the tie. Quickly and strongly. Don't take her calls. Avoid her. It may take weeks and it will be stressful, but she'll get the hint. She will find someone else to use, and move on, forgetting you. With that type of person, you aren't even a full person in their mind; they are imply narcissists who fail to conceive of others as fully human.

Just cut the tie.