g*y but pretending to be straight?

Question

've always been g*y but had to pretend to be straight to be *normal*. Now i am engaged with two kids but I am miserable every day. I fake it during s*x and avoid any sexual contact as much as I can but you can't always so no. I don't want to hurt the guy or my kids but I feel I have no choice, I have no support system on this subject and no one would help me if I said I was g*y. What can I do about this situation? The guys not a bad guy and my kids are still babies...

Answer 1

Only you know truely deep down in your heart what to do Lyra sweetheart .

Iam in a L*****n couple with 2 small children and one on the way . Being a L*****n will never take your family/Mother status away sweetheart so dont let that worry you .

If you feel so strongly lying will only hurt one person and thats you ! .. If you decide that you need to life your true identity explain to your fiance that he will allways be your babies daddy and you will never stop that but you yourself need to go live a different life and be happy . Tell him you are greatfull for the years he has given you :) .. And if you didnt feel so strongly about been g*y he would be perfect for you .

I firmly believe the hardest part is comming out , Any one that tells you its easy is a liar ! , But once its done you can breath a sigh of relief and start to live a little .

I wish you real good luck ... And be brave enjoy your life . x

Answer 2

SORRY BUT I THINK YOU MAY BE A BISEXUAL.  YOU ARE DOING THINGS WITH HIM AND YOU HAVE KIDS.  IF U WERE g*y NEITHER WOULD HAPPEN.  U HAVE TO FIGURE THIS OUT ON YOUR OWN YAHOO ANSWERS REALLY CANT HELP U HAVE TO DECIDE WHAT IT IS U WANT

Answer 3

You need to learn to be honest with your "fiance", your kids and yourself.  I kinda don't believe your story though.  How could you allow yourself to get into this situation?  Just tell your fiance' that you can't marry him because you are g*y.  Then continue to be a mother to your children.  The rest will work itself out.

Answer 4

Wow, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this!  It's a really tough situation obviously, but just think of how it will affect your children if you wait until they know what's going on?  Obviously it's not fair to anyone for you to stay in this relationship, so my advice would be to talk to a counselor before approaching your fiance and definitely before you get married.  You can't marry this guy if you know it's not right for you.  Best of luck to you and I hope everything works out!!

Answer 5

You say you dont want to hurt the guy--well arent you hurting yourself.  Care about yourself.  Dont live a lie.  Just stop the lieing and be honest.  It will be hard to do but it isnt fair to your mate.  You say you have no support well you will just have to deal with it one day at a time.  How would you feel if you were being fooled like your fooling him?   Your kids are your kids not his right?  Depending on their age they dont have to know right now that your g*y do they?

Answer 6

wow you should never have to live like that

you should tell tell him tell him your sorry

and it's best when there little

tell him you still wanna be close

and you wanna be there  for the kids

you have the support of alot of people you  just don't know yet