g**s: Do you think, for yourself at least, that it's impossible for you to fall in love with the opposite s*x?

Question

Do you truly believe that you will never be able to make an emotional connection to the opposite s*x ever? What is it that is stopping you? Is it the body? Isn't love just a connection between two people (and not necessarily the body)?

The body only gives sexual pleasure. All the rest is an emotional connection. Two personalities that matched and were compatible. Is that not possible with those who identify as g*y or L*****n, but towards the opposite s*x?

I'm not trying to offend anyone, I just want to see what you guys feel and think. Thanks!

Answer 1

The way I look at it, people identify as being g*y or straight based on whether they are overwhelmingly attracted to one s*x over the other. So no, in my mind, it wouldn't make it impossible by any means, just far, far less likely.

Answer 2

no i have a friend that is a girl. i have known her since the second grade...in the 10th now and i love her to death just not in a sexual relationship way. and i would do anything for her and im sure she would for me.

Answer 3

i dunt know ♥ having a full relationship with someone means u give ur whole self to them, ur heart, spirituality, ur body, emotionally, an them giving the same back.

i duno if u can fall in love with someone ur not physcialee attracted to, 'cause i thought that was a part of romantic love. although asexual people fall in love but cant have a complete relationship since they dont liek s*x. so perhaps there are people who can fall in love with someone of a gender their not attracted to  

Answer 4

Chango,

g*y here... live with my wife ...18 years..and she knows Im g*y.  There are no boundries for love!!!!  

Answer 5

I ask myself that question daily. Whenever I see someone I am attracted to, or i'm alone in with my own thoughts. My honest answer is I'm just not 100% sure. But I suppose deep down I know I am g*y, and I know my future is going to be with a guy.

For me, it can be a tough thing to admit to myself. I came out to my family and it did not go well, my mom had a melt down, my dad acted as if i no longer exist. so now, we dont discuss it. i live in another state going to school, and when i talk to my dad, he either pretends i have no relationships, or only asks about girls, so i find myself pondering "would it be so terrible to find that right girl and get married".

It's not just s*x, not for me. But it's still a struggle of acceptance.

Good luck man, only when you except the idea of being g*y is ok and natural, until you do then s*x will not be appealing to you.

Answer 6

i think its possible for me, but the relationship would be less about physical intimacy, and more about spiritual fullfillment.

Answer 7

"Do you think, for yourself at least, that it's impossible for you to fall in love with the opposite s*x?"

Yes.

"Do you truly believe that you will never be able to make an emotional connection to the opposite s*x ever?"

No!  It's really easy to have great friends with the opposite s*x because there isn't that "tension" of one liking the other.  It's just two human beings with lots of things in common and enjoy each other's company.

" What is it that is stopping you? Is it the body? Isn't love just a connection between two people (and not necessarily the body)?  The body only gives sexual pleasure. All the rest is an emotional connection. Two personalities that matched and were compatible. Is that not possible with those who identify as g*y or L*****n, but towards the opposite s*x?"

Well... that's the big question, isn't it?  What makes us guys, like other guys??  If you looked at a guy and thought "Wow, he's hot!", then I told you it was a girl - you'd be like: "wtf?  But If I'm g*y, how could I think *she* is hot?"  Well, the thing is, guys just act differently.  They talk differently and just give off an aura of "guy", which tells us we like them as guys, because the only way you can REALLY distinguish sexes is by looking in people's pants - BUT you OBVIOUSLY can't do that in public when you see someone, so it's your PERCEPTION of someone BEING A GUY that attracts you to it (at least that's what I believe - don't think I'm a sexual freak with the "looking-in-pants" thing, it's just a fact).

Answer 8

This is my own opinion. I called myself g*y because I don't let myself falling for girls. I only want guys. But yes, I may be bisexuals.

So yes, s*x and love are two different things. You can have s*x without love, or love without s*x, or neither of them, or even either of them!

Answer 9

I like both genders and the same s*x.

I'm pre-op FTM.  So..I like the same "s*x" as I still have.  I just like the opposite and same genders as well.  I like masculinity in a female body.  That includes drag kings, transgender female to males, genderqueer females, bois, butch lesbians, tomboys, etc.  As long as there are girl parts.  

I get what you're saying about the emotional connection and to some extent I agree with you, but there also has to be attraction and intimacy to keep a relationship alive, and I can't get close enough to a genetically born male to feel intimate or attracted to them.  I'm just not physically attracted to a p***s.  

Answer 10

Emotional connection with opposite s*x..yes...its not necessarily love..it could be something more..like friendship..

To have a person with the opposite s*x as a partner is something impossible to me..its just unthinkable..

Answer 11

Of course not.  I definitely feel that I could fall in love with a member of the opposite s*x.  If I can have friends of the opposite s*x, then there is no reason I couldn't love one.  I seriously think my best friend and I are getting married; shes a girl and i'm a guy.  

Not that I've done it, but I'm sure that s*x feels great whether or not you do it with a man or woman.  Though I think I prefer men more sexually, I definitely wouldn't identify myself as homosexual, or even bisexual.  I'd just say I'm "open".  

Answer 12

I don't wanna say it's Impossible.

Because as you said, love is genderless.

But I can't lie and say I'm looking at both guys AND girls. I'm just not ATTRACTED to girls. And it's a very awkward and slightly uncomfortable thought when it comes to physical feelings. I have tons of friends who are girls, my best friend is a girl, and I love them as friends, as people, but I don't have that emotional connection with any of them like that. It doesn't even cross my mind to even consider trying a relationship with a girl. It's awkward.

With guys, it's a different story. I only have one REAL guy friend, and guess what? I have the biggest crush on him ever.

Now what does that say about me?

Obviously I'm just not attracted to girls like THAT. The chemistry just isn't there.

Maybe one day a girl will break that mold and I'll fall in love with her. But it's extremely unlikely.

Answer 13

I truly don't think I'll ever develop feelings for a male.  I can say this with a good amount of certainty because I'm in my mid-twenties, so I've known a lot of guys and nothing has ever happened.  Plus, my best friend happens to be a guy.  He is funny, smart, caring, talented, athletic, gorgeous.  And I don't feel a single thing for him.  Absolutely nothing.  God I wish I did though.  I do not look forward to a life of falling for women I'll never have, which seems to always happen.

Answer 14

In order to have a complete long lasting relationship one needs physical intimacy. And I dont think i can be intimate with someone I can never be attracted to.

Answer 15

There's nothing stopping emotional connections at all, but you know what satisfies emotional connections? Friends.

I have tons of female friends that I love, but I could never be -in- love with them because I'm g*y and just not attracted to them. For a proper relationship, I'd need both. I think that's fair.

"Love" is a very subjective. I love my friends...but I could never be in love with a female outside of very close friendship.