General question to all about abortion?

Question

I am a mom of 2 one a teenager, and now that this is in the open I have to ask myself..

What would me and my husband do if our child came home at 17, scared and says they are pregnant....

How many out there would "tell our child it is okay" to have an abortion?

Or would you say, welcome to adulthood, it is time to grow up and you will have to take care of this baby, but your father and I are here to help you?

How many out there either have been in this situation, or know exactly what they would do?

*and no slander* this is what would you do or did your parents do if it happend to you?

And don't tell me it will never happen. We all know when your teenager is dating, s*x is a reality. We don't shadow our kids 24/7.

Answer 1

I was in the same situation talked it over with my daughter who decided to keep the baby. I was very proud that she decided to accept the responsibility for her situation. She is now happily married with 3 children. My oldest grandaughter could have been aborted; but my daughter made the right decision.

Answer 2

Again, this isn't about a teen girl getting pregnant...it is about Palin's views on education and reproductive choice. Palin is anti-abortion in EVERY instance. Palin also wants ONLY abstinence education. She also believes that birth control is wrong. She is anti-science and wants creationism taught in science classes. HER views and ONLY her views are what matters. I don't care that the child is pregnant...I care that Palin as a VP and likely as President if McCain dies would be a setback for women and children.

Answer 3

I don't think you can really know until you are confronted with the scenario in real life. And it also depends on the child(ren - it takes 2).

I am pro choice, but that does not mean i "think it's ok" to have an abortion. The choice is about the lesser of evils and no choice in this case is without heart-rending consequences.

Personally, it would really depend on my child, the life plans she has or has not made, her relationship to reality, her feelings and who she is as a woman. It also has to do with the father of the child and that relationship. My advice in the matter would take into account all of these things, and what would be the best for all.

I don't care what all the prolifers think - there is nothing good about bringing an unwanted baby into the world unless you have adoptive parents who are proven bonafide decent loving people, and the way to match that baby with those parents. Raising the baby oneself is not always doable.

Answer 4

I would forbid abortion! my older sis got pregnant at 16, my parents were devastated but they said no way to abortion! u can give her up for adoption but you cannot kill her. my sis had made an abortion appointment b4 my parents found out...thank God He intervened n she canceled!

I have a BEAUTIFUL PRECIOUS God-given niece who is turning 17 in a week! she was almost aborted! thank God she is with us today!!!!

Answer 5

I can only speak to my own personal experiences myself, and as a mother too.

I had my first child when I was 17 (who's now 36)...It was not an 'accident' however, it was my choice. When I approached my parents, my father was the one who presented options to me, but not before asking me first what I wanted because as he told me, this was my life, my body and my decision.

I told him I wanted to have my child as for me abortion was not an option that I would pursue. But I did Not want to get married, I wanted to stay in school, I did have a plan, and my father fully respected that decision. My mother, no way. I was taken out of the last remaining months of that school year, and there had to be a full wedding. She won out, and I felt miserable and disrespected.

Many years later, with four children (all grown now) I always made it a point to allow my children all the education possible. They had a great school system which did offer full s*x-ed classes, but I felt that also had to be taught at home, not left up to teachers only.

When they were old enough I discussed birth control options with my girls when I felt it was the right time, and when I sensed any of my children were getting to cozy with "friends", I went out, purchased condoms and told them where they were.  I don't see that as my promoting sexual activity, I saw it as being open and offering safety. That act alone, along with their education, our openly talking in honest ways, I think prevented them from doing anything.  My girls didn't begin using birth control until well after they went off to college, and that box of condoms I had gotten went unopened, even with my sons. It could have been simply how I raised my family, but it worked and I was pleasantly surprised as we never went through arguing, sneaking out etc. surrounding the whole issue of dating and steady boyfriends or girlfriends.

I also made it a point to explain my personal choices and beliefs, but would always respect theirs as we are all individuals.

Only one of my daughters had a very early abortion in her late 20's due to a sudden divorce. She called to tell me, and I could not judge her for her decision, I could only support her.

My kids were very responsible growing up, and still to this day they remain that way. I would never think to tell them to have an abortion, to have a child ,or to get married. If any of them were to tell me they were about to become parents, I would support them. If they were to say anything about abortions, adoptions etc., I would support them in that regard as well. However, if one of my sons were to become a father, and the young lady didn't want to get married, even at their ages now, they know  that my wrath over any demonstration of irresponsibility towards that child is far worse than anything else they might ever dream of....

It's different for every family, and each child growing up. I tend to think outside of the box and am not afraid of differing opinions. Realizing that no matter what I said or did, each of my children were different individuals, who held their own thoughts and truths, helped ease those teenage years for me, and I think it helped them as well....

Answer 6

Time to grow up

Answer 7

You seem to overlook the option of adoption.  Ask anyone who has adopted a child... it is a difficult process that typically takes more than a year, and there are more parents wanting to adopt then children available for adoption.  But the primary question is how many would tell their child it is ok to abort.  The answer is the majority.  The secondary question, by implication, is how would I personally respond.  

Let's pretend that there was a person that is a social disgrace.  He smells, he belches.  He doesn't wash his hands.  He has athlete's foot and it's contageous.  He's an embarassment and, understandably, socially outcasts anyone who associates themselves with him.  He doesn't do it on purpose; he's just completely socially and incurrably incompetent.  Now let's pretend that he's physically chained to my teenaged daughter's ankle for 9 months.  The only way to liberate her from this guy would be to murder him.  There would be no legal consequences for the murder.  I would not tell my daughter that it is ok to murder him.  Of course I would not be happy about it, and I would not be proud of my daughter if her foolishness caused the circumstances, but it's a no-brainer.  How much more when it's an innocent baby and the baby is my grandchild?

Answer 8

Do you think they are ready for the responsibility. Do they have the family's support? There are a lot of factors to look at. I don't think I would rule out an abortion, it just depends on the overall situation.

Answer 9

I'm 21, almost 22, 3 years married this December and me and the husbandsnuggly have decided we won't flat out -try- for kids, but we're not going to 'prevent' kids. (I love his terminology for it).

Personally? It's their choice. And that's exactly what I'd tell them. I'd love them no matter what they did.

As well-I got married at 19. I married a virgin. I've also never had a drop of drugs or alcohol in my life. I don't even drink caffeine. Not all teenagers are psychotic idiots.

Answer 10

I have been through it and all I have to say is I am happy with all 4 of my beautiful grandchildren and the woman my teenaged daughter has grown to be.  Abortion is a very difficult, personal choice to make and I believe it should be just that, a woman's personal choice between her and God.  As parents, all we can do is to teach our kids what we feel is right and wrong and hope they make good choices and to be there when they don't and to listen and help when and how we can,

Answer 11

I would let my child make the choice themselves. If they think they're mature enough to have s*x, they should be mature enough to make that decision. I will support them either way.

Answer 12

It's a fair question.

We've raised our kids to be responsible, but you can teach that all you want: it can go out the window pretty quick when countered with young hormones and hearts.

We've made no bones about our stance on abortion: against. And we've made no bones about expecting more out of our kids than to give in to temptation and instead to focus on the dreams and goals they have for their lives. We've also made sure they're aware of all the things they can do (and yes, saying no is one of them) to prevent both pregnancy and STD.

Still, if it ever were to happen, we'd support our kid. Love our kid, and if we had to, raise their kid until ours was ready to do so. I

I'm just glad that if it ever did happen, it wouldn't be advertised and made sport of here on YA. It's been about the lowest example of how vile and heartless some people can be.

Wow. Someone got a thumbs down because they have a 17 year old beautiful niece who was in danger of being an abortion statistic. Very interesting.