Genetically & Environmentally inclined to be forever single?

Question

Okay, Im adopted. My adopted parents had a wacky, unhealthy relationship don't even ask, you don't want to know. They were not good examples lets just keep it like that. But, something I just realized. I met both my natural parents in my early twenties, they were separate by the time I was born, neither had married, neither had more kids and today they still live as single people. (as far as I know)

I am 40, intelligent, attractive, and perpetually single. Is it possible that loneliness is genetic and I'm just doomed to spend a lifetime without a life mate (husband) and how freaking fair is that????~!!!!!!!!

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Answer 1

i think you should leave your environment to another? You're in the wrong place hun, or maybe you're already complete you don't feel the need of another person.

Answer 2

OMG I'm 22 and YOURE freaking ME out! No, seriously, believe or not, my aunt is adopted as well, with similar circumstances and is turning 48 this year, and is getting married in two months.  We couldn't be happier for her.  And the same will happen for you.  

PS how many cats do you have?

Answer 3

Your fatalism is a pathetic excuse. Your relationship status depends on you, not your "genes" or "upbringing". Take responsibility for your situation and rectify it: don't blame it on factors outside of your control that have no bearing on the matter.

Answer 4

Everyone is their own individual and I do not believe that loneliness would be genetic...I am guessing you need to put yourself out there more socially and just keep an open mind and try dating various guys and then see what happens.

Answer 5

I wonder about that too. I don't have the same history, but when I think a relationship is about to happen its not and I end up remaining single.

Single =/= lonely.

There is noting wrong with being alone if you can be happy. You don't need another half to make yourself happy...

Answer 6

There's plenty of guys similar to you that feel exactly the same way as you do. You need to look in the proper places. Try online dating?

Answer 7

Genetic? no...not at all.

In fact, you're stressing too much on the matter.

Just because there isn't a piece of gold wrapped around one of your fingers, doesn't make you any less desirable or genetically deficient.

Just relax...no need to have online strangers patronizing you about "waiting for Mr. Right" - as he undoubtly does not exsist.

You are over-complicating things...do you date much? if no, that could be a problem...but just relax....if you are smart, fit, and make a decent living...its only a matter of time before you find a partner that you can spend great lenghts of time with. (nothing is forever, and never is sooner rather than later.)