Gentlemen, when, if ever, is it appropriate for a woman to pay for dinner at a resteraunt,

Question

assuming you asked her out?

Answer 1

It depends.

On a first date, unless it was agreed upon prior to the date to go dutch, the person (male or female) who did the asking should pay.

After a couple is established (like me and my partner...together 3 years now), then I don't think it matters who pays. Relationships are a partnership...that means equality.

EMT

My partner and I are not officially married but we do live together so we are considered "domestic partners" by the state...and yes, we are a heterosexual couple.

Answer 2

Assuming I asked her out, it is never appropriate for her to pay for dinner.

Assuming she asked me out, it is never appropriate for me to pay for dinner.

Essentially, if you ask him/her out, then you make the plans, so either choose a restaurant at which you can comfortably afford two meals or don't bother dating.

The host foots the bill, not the guest.

Answer 3

In a lot of cases it's still the guy who asks the woman out even in 2008, so he should pay for that date and if it leads to a second then he should pay again, but if things start to get serious between you and a woman then either agree to pay for each alternative date or go 50-50.  That's my own personal experience.

Answer 4

i generally dont let women pay for dinner. i dunno. it is how i was raised. however if the woman asks me out or makes the plans for the evening and offers to pay you should let her.

i enjoy paying for things for someone else on a date. there is no reason why she shouldnt get the same courtesy if she wants to.

under no circumstances can you split the check. on a date one party must pay for the entire thing. and you as the guy are default.

Answer 5

every single chance you can get her to pay. Dont us men do enough in the world?

Answer 6

I am from the old school, so I should think, actually,never.  For younsters, perhaps an agreed upon "dutch treat" type situation due to lack of funds on either's part.  Otherwise, if the woman is utterly sincere with insistence to pay.

Answer 7

Depends.  If the relationship is just as platonic friends, and if she offers to pay for herself, and you are on a tight budget, let her pay her portion.  If you got the bill last time and she offers to get this one, fine.  However, if you are the one making significantly more money (more disposable cash), it's only fair to pick up the whole tab--but don't fight over it.  If she insists, give in.

Answer 8

I'd fall in love if she ever offered to pay half.  Every woman I meet is selfish to the extreme.  

Answer 9

My husband wanted to answer this one so excuse the female avatar but he says--

If it's a business lunch.  If her company is the powerful one and they are trying to wine and dine you, she would pay.

or

If you have been out more than 3 times and it is getting close to "relationship".  She could pay then.

But all my guy friends universally agree that if a guy asks you out to "grab a bite to eat"  (in a way that sounds super casual and you aren't sure if it's a date), if he grabs the check it's a date.  If he expects you to throw in half, it's a clear way to know you are just friends.