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Gentlemen how many times has it happened that a man comes back from a comabt tour to find his woman is gone?

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Edit:Catcat please dont apologize for the fact that you are a lady and your answer is welcome!!!

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  1. What is your point? What are you crying about if you've never even served?

    I don't care what your stats say, unless you've been there and lived it, or unless you've been married to someone who has been deployed...zip it. You have no idea what goes on with either of the people involved.

    Many, many women honor their loved ones while deployed.

    Mine just returned home from yet another 15 month deployment and I love him even more. Even while  he's away my love grows stronger for him. I see his sacrifice, his strength, his courage, his sense of duty to his country and I wouldn't dream of leaving him for another man. In fact the men that are here aren't even considered men to me. Their boys who ride on the coat tails of the men who truly defend, honor and protect this country.

    Until you've walked a step in HIS boots your opinions on anything to do with combat and military relationships, means squat.

    Go Army...Hooah! 4/2 SBCT

    Again the stats mean zero to me. Does it list the reason as to the divorce? Is it because the women are cheating or because the men are having problems once coming home? Did they have a bad relationship before he was deployed? Again as you've never experienced it you don't know what your talking about.

    For example when my grandfather came home from Germany, my grandmother said, he was NEVER the same man again.

    There could be 100 reasons for the marriage breaking. Not just because of the woman sleeping around.

    I don't give a c**p what the military writes. Is this the same military that said there was no agent orange? That's what I thought. Zip it.

    Further more why  don't you ask this question in the military section?


  2. Men in the armed forces should get with the program and get involved in that marriage strike.

    Women of today are not worthy of us men in such a way as to commit to them. Have fun like most men and shop around until the centre closes.

  3. It's impossible to know how many times it's happened.

    But then, it's also impossible to know how many men messed around, even got involved in serious relationships, or fathered children while at war.

  4. With an increase in women in the service its happening to them as well.    Long distance does not strengthen some relationships.

    With the number eurasian children left in Vietnam it wasn't just the women who could not wait.

  5. Well, a lot of men in the service cheat as well. But I find that the TYPE of woman that goes for a "man in uniform" is usually the cheating type.

    One of my best friends is in the Army right now. He is currently dating the fiance of another guy in the service. THERE YOU GO...

    Men are really no different than women in this area. Its called "Out of sight, out of mind".

  6. Sir, I'm sorry I am not a gentleman.  I am a woman who thinks this happens A LOT to guys who deserve better.

  7. t's tought but- absence makes the heart grow stronger or absence makes the heart wander - it's life i'm afraid.

  8. Well, I've seen it on both sides now. Remember that there are a lot of women serving in the military over seas as well. I can recall a deployment I was on with the Abraham Lincoln Battle Group (3rd Fleet) out of Perl Harbor, HI. A female 1st Class Petty Officer that I was cool with emailed me her dilemma with her husband back home (she was on the carrier and I was on the destroyer) Our deployment was extended due to some unforeseen reasons, and instead of doing a six month deployment we did 9. While on deployment she would try to keep in contact with her husband, but soon after our extension, she stopped receiving emails, she would call home and he wouldn't answer. If he did it always seemed like there was a lot of people over too the house. She was PO'd! Well, upon coming home, while play fighting with her son, her son made the comment "I don't like playing with you, I like playing with my new mommy better...." Imagine the shock! She said she never said a word to her son because he didn't understand the indications of the comment that he’d just made. She even stated that a few times while the boy and his father would be in the room watching T.V. or outside playing catch, the little boy was even asking his father "where's my new mommy?". The husband would try to play it off, but she would pretend like she didn’t hear. Not to mention he stopped being intimate with her, and act like she bothered him when ever she was around.

    So, she put her investigative skills to the test and found that while she was away fighting "the war on terror" her husband was at home having house parties with strippers, going out on dates, and he'd started an affair with her hair dressers 18 yr old daughter who happened to be (you guessed it) a stripper. Who's was standing in as her son's "new mommy" while she was gone. The girl had been all up in her home, all up in her bed with her husband, he’d taken down family photos and pics of her. He was allowing this girl to live with him like she was his wife while his wife was over seas.

    She flipped out! She sold all her furniture, confronted the hair dresser and her daughter. It was a mess. I remember having to pick her up from the base jail house after shore patrol was called on her for the altercation between her and her husband. Because when a military member and a spouse have a disagreement, the military member is removed from the base housing living quarters. So even though he started the altercation, she had to leave because of the fact that she was active duty and he was a dependant. To make matters worse, she received a new set of orders, and had to sign temporary custody of her son over to her new ex-husband while she was underway again for the second time, assigned to another combative unit.

    So now, she’s got to perform her duties, try to contact her son, and deal wit the idea of some 18 yr old stripper trying to assume the duties of “mother” to her kid. So if you’re going to tell the story of the family hardships that service members suffer while serving over seas, tell it from both sides. Because I’ve seen many “Dear Joanna” letters in my former Navy days. How many years did you serve? What branch where you in?

    Edit: Would you be so kind as to clarify what you mean by “proportionate” in respects to men and women in the Armed services. Because I honestly don’t think I brought that argument to the forefront. I was only giving an example of how there are many women who’re serving in today’s Army, Navy, Air Force, and Marine Corps, along side their fellow brothers in arms who suffer the same heart ache. I wanted you to understand that in today’s fighting forces (vs. yesterday) it happens to women as well. I think the problem is that both sexes tend to have either

    A. Poor judgment on their choice for a  military spouse

    B. Don’t understand the hardships that will be endured by both them and their families while on deployment

    C. (and I’ve seen this time and time again) Dabble a little with infidelity themselves, and get a taste of their own medicine upon returning home.

    I’m sure that times have not changed too much to the point where men who are and where deployed during the wars didn’t’ experience life with the local singles as they do in today’s service. Granted there are some regions of the world that a troop will be deployed too where there is no time for hanky panky (much less a local woman that will engage) But I have many uncles and two aunts who fought in the Korean, Viet Nam, Desert Storm and now Iraqi Freedom war’s who as they told me “did the do” while on leave and recreation. And they’re still married to the women they where married too at the time of their miss- conduct. You can’t tell me (and you won’t convince me) that while some of the married men where over in Viet Nam they didn’t indulge. That’s how a lot of them lost their private members because the prostitutes would sneak a little smoothing extra in their surprise for the GI’s. They did their thing too, they where just as guilty as their spouses. I can even recall times where married men on the ship would take their wedding bands off prior to leaving port. So by the time we hit a port of call the tan line would be gone from around their fingers. Two weeks to about a month before our return, they would slip their bands back on so that they would have the tan line return for their wives to see if asked (and trust me, I’ve seen some ask). I’m not saying all service men do this, but there are some who do. So if you’re going to study the trends of spouses who cheat, study the trend of those who’re unfaithful to their spouses while serving.

  9. If you have the stats, why are you asking a question?  Asking a question that does not seek an answer is against the policies of Yahoo Answers.  This is a rant.

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  10. I don't know how many times it has happened but it happened to me.  I was with my wife for 20 years and I went to the war in Aphaganistan for four months.  When I got home she had left me for "Mr. Wal-Mart."  I call him that because that is where he worked.  It hurt me really bad and I was a basket case.  I have since remarried and am even happier.

  11. You're assuming the only reason that women wouldn't wait would be sexual. Life goes on. Long distant relationships have alwyas been problematic. Especially where the only contact is through letters or by phone.

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