Genuinely Interested? Player? How to tell? ?

Question

How? Please tell me because there used to be this thick line between a guy after s*x and a guy who really cared, but somehow over time, guys got really good at "playing the game". It is a little confusing to tell.

I prefer guy's insight (especially if he either plays that game OR only goes after girls he wants a monogamous relationship with)...

but if there are girls that have an answer due to finding all of the right guys, do tell.

Answer 1

When I first met my fiancee, we didn't have s*x. Sure, there was lots of sexual tension, but he was much more interested in hanging out wiht me and talking. Once we started dating, we eventually had s*x, but it wasn't ever the first thing..you know? I think when a guy can hold back his animal instinct and just wants to bea round you, talk to you( someone who enjoys your company) then that is a guy who is truly interested. A guy who is consistently trying to get into your pants( you know the ones who you go to the movies with and their tongue down your throat, their fingers trailing down...needless to say that can be hot with the right guy hehehhe) probably isn't one who is interested truly in you.

Answer 2

well im a guy.it is hard to tell but if it were me if i liked the girl genuinely then id ask a lot of questions like where shes from ,her interests and well being!

if I wanted s*x then id still ask questions but drop a few flirt lines in like about good they are looking!normally would look at their body a few times as well

i hope that helps!

Answer 3

tbh i really dont think you can tell. i think most guys can be out for s*x, or out for the real thing and alot of it can depend on which girl they're with. perhaps if you make it clear what you really want out of the relationship to avoid playing games with eachother. all in all if a guy calls you his girlfriend and wants to spend time with you when you're not having s*x (including hanging out with his friends) it can kind of show you hes looking for an actual relationship. i dont really think its easy to tell from the beginning though.

as for finding the right guy, cant yet help there :[  

Answer 4

In my opinion, the one and completely true way to tell if someone cares is trust and honesty. (by the way, I would be the second type of male perspective)

A guy truly cares when he is comfortable letting you know his secrets. For one, very few guys will tell everything, even to their best friends. If he tells those secrets to you that no one else knows, then you know that he has placed his faith in you.

How do you know that he is telling you something like that? Because they are the kind of things that he would rather not admit to in a million years.

There is also another way to tell if he truly cares, and I hope you don't have to experience it. But if you are ever unfortunate in life to have your life come crashing down, a man who cares will come to rescue you no questions asked. And he'll do it for no reward other than the knowledge that you are safe, because not knowing is more pain than he can take.

Finally, remember that people are complex creatures. We are all different in some ways, and what is an indication of truly caring in one person may not be the same for another. If you ever get to the point where you can understand a person well enough, you'll know. Just have confidence and follow your gut instinct. A lot of times, it isn't instinct at all. It's usually either a warning sign or indicator to step forward based off of your observation. It may not be reliable, but at least pay attention to it.

Answer 5

He wants to get to know you. He brings you around his friends. He makes time for you even if he is busy. He asks you your opinion on things. He wants to take care of you when you are sick. He is the first person you would think of if you had an emergency. He is the first person you think of to tell about something that made you laugh.

Once you have a person like that in your life there is no question for you, you don't have to wonder if he is committed or not. He will wait a couple of months for the booty if that is how much time you need.  

Answer 6

i read your link on another question and i understand why you asked for help.

Ok the thing about players (i have been one my self) is depending how desperate you are depends how hard you will try.

The only real way to tell is use ur gut feeling. do the standard payer filter, few dates no propper kissing and no s*x, a few days between each date etc. if he is getting intrest from else where thats not as hard to get then you wont hear from him that much. if there desperate they will still be there but thats gonna be rare, at this stage you have to take the risk, you have had a number of dates with no hevey kissing or s*x and he is still here!!

in the end its up to you but the age old saying that good things come to those who wait. if you wait and make them wait thats just double the goodnes haha good luck and hope i helped u out a little

Answer 7

it should be hard to tell.

Answer 8

if i was to have s*x with a guy..and i didn't know where we stood, i'd ask. there's nothing wrong with being straightforward. guys are pretty truthful with what they want. if you're drunk and at a party and you see the guy you like but he's never shown interest in you, most likely he's only out there for s*x.

i don't know if i answered your question right..

Answer 9

My answer ain't gonna help. But men play too many games. They sum con artists  and they play the game good. If/when we finds us a good man we gonna be like God was on our side afterall.  

Answer 10

oh! ^.^ when i find the right guy, i could give you some um... clues! :D

btw.. punjabi, stop insulting people like that...be a man for god's sake.

grow.the.****.up.