Gershom, Possum, Rox and Concerned (and any others I left out), I apologise for offending and insulting you?

Question

I've read the answers and edits from your replies to my other questions, and I see where you are coming from. Obviously I got my lines crossed in previous questions, and didn't explain myself or my situation clearly enough, so no hard feelings?

I shouldn't have been rude, it was out of line, I guess I'd been having a bad day and reading some provocative stuff on here, but no excuses.

Sorry it's not a question everyone, but go ahead and grab some points anyway!!!

:=) x*x Jackson's Mom.

Answer 1

It's very gracious of you to apologize in such a public way when all of this could have been taken care of behind the scenes.  That's awesome of you...and also very open minded of you to be willing to listen to explanations that don't coincide with what you have said or thought or experienced in your own life.

I, too, am an adoptee but I know nothing about the circumstances as to why my birth mother relinquished me.  My aparents really never should have adopted...probably never should have been parents period.  So, I'm a little bitter about it all, but I am working through it at my own time.  I WISH I could be as genuinely grateful & as confident in the act of adoption as you are.

Sorry for rambling, just giving my side, I guess...(((hugg)))

Answer 2

Congratulations on your well-worded apology to those you may have insulted or hurt. There should be more like you.

Answer 3

Thank you Jackson's Mom. This is really gracious of you.

I agree with what Gersh said. I absolutely do not think kids should stay with their biological parents at all costs. I just see the dynamics in infant adoption as (often, not always) being very different from the dynamics in foster adoption.

Some women DO relinquish their children at birth because they genuinely cannot be good parents. I think that is a GOOD thing. I don't want infant adoption completely banned.

I just don't want to see unnecessary infant adoptions happen. And unnecessary ones ARE happening, too often.

Answer 4

hehe, yeay points! Just so you know, I understand where you are coming from too, and I REALLY understand how strange it sounds to hear people say some of the things people who want to make reform happen say, especially when you really do know that adoption made a huge difference in your life!

There ARE a lot of bioparents out there who should never be parents. And really and truly, I am sorry you were faced with that situation! I think what is sad is that parents who tend to not think about their childrens needs, tend to just keep them and treat them badly (and often abandon them with family, to CPS, or lose their parenting rights to CPS), wheras some of the most thoughtful, concerned, and dedicated expectant mothers get suckered into believing that adoption is the ONLY way to give their child a good life.

It's such a backwards dynamic!!! And I want to see more older kids trapped in a sucky system get SEEN!! And have families!

Answer 5

hey no hard feelings here!! Its honorable to step up and do that. I apologize if i've offended you too. peace !!

Answer 6

i dont  know what you did but good on you for apologising it takes a big person to admit they are wrong but an even bigger person to say they are sorry!!!

Answer 7

(((((Jacksonsmom)))))

Thankyou - and I'm sorry for all the mix-ups too.

Poss. xx

Answer 8

It takes a mature person to admit that.  Grab some credit for yourself!