Get pissy when I can't drink?

Question

Let me start off my saying that I go out running every morning for about 3-6 miles depending on the day.

We're on one income bc I stay at home with the kids and so money is tight and altho we manage everything pretty well, at times we don't get a beer or wine for the night. Then I get kinda pissy about it, both me and my spouse do.

Is it really bad to be drinking 3 drinks a night,I am sure I'm dependent on it in some levels but I certainly don't need it to function. Just at the end of the night, when we're trying to relax and it's a nice night out and I'd like a beer but we can't afford it I get and my spouse gets pissy about it.

Should I stop cold turkey and admit I'm an alchoholic or is there really nothing wrong with wanting to have a few drinks.

I grew up in that environment of dad comes home, sits down with mom for a few beers before dinner.

We feel deprived or something. I don't know. Tell me your thoughts?

And I mean really what's the difference than those who smoke and need that cigarette or else. There's no harm and never has my kids safety or care been in jeopardy so please just tell me what you think bc even I'm confused.

Answer 1

you sound like a good mother and partner and take care of yourself, so i don't see anything wrong with having a few beers every evening, enjoy yourself and relax.

Answer 2

What kind of beer? Because if you come home and you're craving a miller lite, then you got problems and shouldn't be drinking in the first place. With that aside its probably a good thing that you're not drinking. People these days need to learn to sacrifice. Alcohol is a luxury, its a "want", not a "need". I congratulate you in the fact that you know you're only on one outcome and you've decided not to spend the money you have on alcohol. Family life is not about you and your spouse, it's about your children. If you feel pissy about not having alcohol, how do you think your kids would feel if they didn't have milk. How about, next time you feel pisssy about not having alcohol, you and your spouse take your kids out to the park, or out for a bike ride, or something of that nature. It doesn't matter anymore what kind of family you came from, you have your own now to take care of. Don't waste this beautiful opportunity. And don't try to justify your actions by comparing it to smokers, that's easy an cop-out. Take responsibility for yourself and your family. Be a parent. I wish you and your family happiness and the best of luck in the future.