Getting Married?????

Question

Ok so my fiance and i want to get married but we dont really have much money and the little money that we do have saved we want to save it for other things like bills that we are going to have after we get married and just for other purposes. Would it be wrong jus to get married in vegas and skip the big wedding, or would that be disrespectfull to our parents(my parents).

Answer 1

me and my husband had a yacht wedding planned, but 3 months before we decided to not go through the stress and save the money. we went to vegas i LOVED it! we had our family there but that was it. moms dads and sibblings and in-laws. and we just got a suite and had a mini reception with music food and cake. so to answer you question no its not disrespectful. it would be disrespectful for them not to understand because its your day not theres so it how ever you want to.

  

Answer 2

this sounds like me and my boyfriend. my family lives too far away to come and his family aren't close so we dont want a big wedding and are gonna go to vegas. just us and elvis, hopefully. save your money, do what makes you happy, be sure to send the family some photos or some type of keepsake and enjoy your married lives together....marriage isnt about the family its about you two so just have fun!

the whole "big white wedding" is over rated and outdated. Really, it just seems like a social status situation. Do what makes you happy and spend the money you save on bills now so you can have an awesome dream vacation later.

Answer 3

No one here can answer for your parents. Will they feel disrespected by you choosing to do what you are comfortable doing? Only they can answer this. Objectively, there's nothing disrespectful about making smart financial choices that make sense in your situation, but how the parents might feel is a whole another matter entirely. Their feelings are valid from a subjective point of view.

If you're concerned about offending them, I suggest you talk to them and discuss your idea and your reasons for it - see how they feel about it, and if a compromise can be reached that would make everyone happy.

Answer 4

just tell them what you want to do and see if they offer any $$ to help. If they can't or won't then just do what you want to do, or see if they will go to vegas with you so they can be present (but after the wedding they go on their way....)

Answer 5

Talk to your parents. Tell them you don't have the money to do the "big" thing. Maybe they'll want to join you in Vegas.  

Answer 6

OMG, no way. It's your BIG day! I am thinking about doing the same thing. I would suggest having a little party or something after you are married, so your family feels like a part of it. Plus, you could get money/gifts, which could pay for your honeymoon. Just a thought. Good Luck.

Answer 7

don't get married that way.. my soon to be sister in law got married at a court house (okay vegas is a little better but still) and now she see's me planning and wishes she would have done an actual wedding. Talk to your parents and save some more money..you can pull off a simple pretty INEXPENSIVE (notice i didn't say cheap) wedding. there are so many do it yourself ideas out there.. you can do everything yourself..your biggest cost will be the food, but you can do a buffett style wedding..and have you and your closest family make large amounts of food= )..you can buy a "fake" cake with sheet cakes ojn the side.. i literally cut my cake price in 60% doing ti that way. go to barns and nobles and you can look at DIY flowers.. trustme you can pull off a BEAUTIFUL wedding for not alot of money..just talk to the parents first and see if they will contribute anything. BUT if you want to head for vegas..go for it. doesn't mean your family won't be upset!

Answer 8

You could invite your parents to Vegas w/you guys and whoever else and make a vacation out of it..thats what a friend of mines did a few months ago and we had a great time...then you could have a reception later on back in your hometown...good luck

Answer 9

If you are both over 21 I would say go with what you want to do, but dont

get married now for the sake of it in a cheap way as you may regret not having the whole white wedding thing in time to come.

I would book a date a year ahead and pay for things as you go.

Good luck, this is what we are doing and our wedding is next June.