Getting My Dad To Let Me Go With My Boyfriend!?

Question

I love my father, to death, I do. My mother passed away when I was younger, & he's the only one I have left. But he is so over-protective!

Within the last month, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend & started dating someone else. Now, my current boyfriend has a place at the beach & wants me to come down with him sometime, but I can't. My father doesn't let me go on dates alone. Now, I can understand if it was like, the movies or something, but he won't even let me go to the mall alone with the kid! I really wanna go & spend time with him, because I'm afraid that my father's strict-ness might strain our relationship a bit.

But just, in general, how can I get my father to let me have ALITTLE alone time with him?. I know, there might not be a way, but even just with little stuff, like going down the shore!

Answer 1

I think that your father is over protective of you, because he thinks h**l loose his daughter. I think that you should ask him to sit down and talk to you and explain this to your father. Thats the only way I think your dad will get the point without sneaking behind his back. He might not even know how much he is straining your relationships until you tell him.  

Answer 2

talk about.and ask him why. and compermise

Answer 3

You are his little girl and he feels the more you grow the more you wont need him sit him down and ask what you both can do to make this work tell him you see his point but he needs to see yours too and see if the 2 of you can do something to make it work where you both are happy  

Answer 4

Do what every other girl does.

LIE

Answer 5

Welp this is normal. You've always been your father 'little princess' and but your also the only family he has left, and your also so special because you came from your mother - somebody he prolly loved very *VERY* much ...

It helps to remember that he's not doing this to hurt you, sure it may suck. But he's just trying to make sure your safe and have the chance to be happy & healthy adult that is saved from making giant and/or dangerous mistakes - or even just trying to stop you from getting your heart broken by guys ...

*THERE IS SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER ABOUT GUYS AND YOUR FATHER*

Guys are asses, young guys EVEN MORE SO. Your dad was a boy once and he remembers how easy it was to take advantage of girls and how much it hurt them. And he wants to make sure your 'safe' from this

I *WOULD NOT* trust my daughter with 'some dude' that's going to take her away for awhile, you *shouldn't* trust yourself to go into the middle of nowhere where your totally venerable with this guy either it's very soon. It would be better with friends AT THE VERY LEAST

He's your dad and he's doing this because he's trying to help and protect you. *HOWEVER* setup a dinner and let him meet your boyfriend and let to get to know him, if your boyfriend is a mature trusty worthy boy then your dad will let you CAUTIOUSLY do more and more with him. But I wouldn't count on 'spending the night up there - even if your not 'sleeping' with him' for awhile ...

*ALSO* please if you allow your dad this meet this guy and he gets more freaked out it's almost certainly for good reason. Please trust your dad's judgment. He's been around allot longer then you and has been 'on the boys shoes' and he'll have a *MUCH* better idea if your current BF can be trusted then *YOU*

I don't that's hard for you to swallow but it's easy when your involved with somebody to be a little blind to reality and what the person is really like and instead of seeing what they're doing, you trust what they say and then potential you feel with them

Just value your dad's judgment, experience and how much he cares for you. Instead of going 'against' him just let him meet your BF and if he's a good guy your dad will likely 'let up' but if you dad is more freaked out, worried and restrictive this is a *VERY GOOD HINT* you may have to be careful of this guy

*AND* just ask your dad. If you want to start going to the mall. or do anything else,  with this dude ask your dad under what conditions would he feel comfortable ... (Meeting him, checking in, being with other long term girl friends, etc .....)

Answer 6

It sound like your also all your dad has left too. He's just trying to do the right thing in raising you. It s a fine line parent have to walk between raising independent strong women and protecting them from all that can happen and at 15 and 16 there is a whole lot to protect. Sorry I don't blame your dad for not letting you go to a beachhouse with your bf  the mall is a different story .

Just sit down talk calmly not yelling no matter how stressed it gets he can hear you alot better through calm mature  talk. explain how he has taught you right from wrong and you feel confident because of his good teachings in making the right decisions.Be prepared for it not to work but in time with the proof of your actions that he can trust (not by lying as some one else suggests)you

Answer 7

Why are you going out with boys when you are only 15?  This is not a good path.  

Answer 8

your father loves you, he's just looking out for your best interest at heart. And especially because your mother passed away he feels an extra need to protect you, it's like he's looking out for you extra because your mom is not there and that is normal. He doesn't want to lose you.

Give him a break, he is a single father and widowed. Just listen to him, everything will work out for the better. I'm not saying your new boyfriend is a bad person (I don't know him) but there are a lot of young girls around your age that go missing or are thrown into human trafficking. Basically young girls that are flown to another country to be used as s*x slaves.

And usually they lure these innocent young girls by getting them acquainted well then they take you to a house and a group of guys assault and rape you and kidnap you.

Trust your dad's instinct, he probably senses something wrong with your new boyfriend. Give your dad a chance. Listen to him. I know he loves you and wants you to be happy.

Hope I helped, best of wishes!

Answer 9

Talk to him and tell him you don't need his protection

which is his problem.  Tell him you want to be

respected and that you are a modern woman.

Tell him he is strict and traditiona.  He can

learn something from you.