Getting a divorce 39 years old tie tubes or not have 2 children?

Question

Getting a divorce 39 years old tie tubes or not have 2 children?

Answer 1

I would not tie the tubes because you never know how you will feel in a few months or years. It would be very possible that you want another baby in a couple of years and if you do not wish to worry about the daily birth control pills, then there is still the option of the birth control that is placed inside the uterus for up to five years.

Answer 2

I'm 39 also and getting married this year I have a 17yo and 14yo I'm looking forward to the time when my husband and I can have time all to ourselves, of course I love my children now, but I can't imagine starting over with another baby. I say tie your tubes, it also gives you the most freedom in birth control.

Answer 3

I had my first child at 18 and gave her up in 1972 then I had my son in 1977, I was married and 24, and he is a wonderful kid (man) but in 1987 when my husband said wouldn't you like another baby, I said no thanks, I got a tubal and I never regretted it. But, it's your choice so I'd say hold off on any thing permanent, try the pill or the patch for awhile.

Answer 4

Getting your tubes tied is a personal choice.  However it's important to keep in mind that if you choose to have more children past the age of 40 the risk factor for birth defects and complications for the mother increase.

Answer 5

I had my tubes tied at the age of 21 after having 2 children because I believe in Zero population....

At the age of 39 years old my second husband and I became adoptive parents of special needs siblings from the foster care system.... My second husband never had biological children.

I would go for the tubal because you are thinking it is a good idea...  If you do plan to remarry the odds are very high that you would marry a man who does have children...  

I know I will tick off some by this statement but, at 39 and with two children you know what pregnancy and child birth is all about.... I will promise you that after 40 things are Not the way they were in our 20's or in our 30's

But, I could just have an attitude on this question as I am just about to celebrate my 1 year anniversary of a hysterectomy so I am one of those 45 year olds!

Besides, once your children are grown and you are over the divorce you would be amazed at how the men will come out of the woodwork...and you don't want to be worried about a young girls concerns while you relive your youth and do what you never did--right?

Answer 6

I'd say separate the two and don't tie your tubes just because you're going through a divorce and possibly feel like the chances of having children are over. However, 39 is reaching 40 which is close to when our bodies stop naturally being able to have children ( although I've heard of some women having children naturally into their 50's ) I wouldn't want to have children even after my 30's, but thats a personal choice. When I'm 50 I don't want to be raising children anymore, unless its my grandchildren who arrived unexpectedly.

I'd say go through the divorce, wait a few months or a year, and then have your tubes tied if you're still cool with the idea.

Answer 7

I would say get them tied if it were me. You already have 2 children and the later in life you have gets the risks are more greater.

Answer 8

I personally would go for other forms of birth control and leave my options open.  Totally depends on the person! Tubal reversal is not covered by insurance and your chance of a take home baby is less.

Answer 9

What does you heart tell you. If you get them tied and change your mind later even in your 40's the chance will be significantly diminished. But do what is right for you.Good luck  :)

Answer 10

Is this several questions? um not sure how to answer, but here's my best guess.

-Your 39yrs old and getting a divorce....right?

-You want to know if you should have a tube-ligation so that you wont produce anymore eggs and therefore cannot become pregnant.....right?

- this part I'm a bit confused "or not have two children"....

Answer:

If your getting divorced and you never had children and don't wont to have any children, then yes and get a tube-ligation.  As to why 2 children? I don't know because if you get a tube-ligation you want be able to conceive ANY children. However, if you still want to have children, consider your age, as women your age and older may have difficulties going through a pregnancy, but with today's pre-natal care the risks are lower then say ten years ago.

hope that helps

Answer 11

It is a good idea to do so because any pregnancy over 40 is considered high risk. If you are getting a divorce think about how your children will be affected and maybe you should dedicate more time to them rather than conceiving for the third time. You are a mature enough woman to know what is good for you. you know your family and your kids to know what is best for them. so give it a lot of thought and best wishes

Answer 12

It would be your choice, depends if you want more children or not.

Answer 13

do NOT do it!  I have 4 boys.  When I was pregnant with the last one I knew it would be my last.  I do not regret that decision.  But when they did the cesarian I had them tie my tubes.  Although I still do not want additional children, I felt very depressed afterwards.  It was as if part of my womanhood was gone.  Women going through menopause will tell you the same thing.  It is not that they want to conceive, it is knowing that they can't that bothers them.

Answer 14

I was a single parent of three for 12 years. I remarried at age 36 and had one more child at age 45, when my older children were 24, 22 and 20. So, if you want more children you still have a few years left. Although I do have to warn you. Kate, our youngest daughter, used to joke that she had the only parents who were card carrying members of AARP! She is so adored by her older sisters and brother.

Let me just add that you will have half (maybe less) the energy chasing around a toddler in your late 40's. She may have been the ultimate birth control (sadly) for my other children because none of them have children of their own yet. They do "borrow" their sister frequently though.lol