Getting attention? what can i do?

Question

OK, so i have a twin and I am constantly overshadowed by her. In school, in sports, everything. I have tried to take up new things, but then she decides she wants to do it to, and ends up being better than me. In softball, we are both varsity starters, I am first base, but she is pitcher. We are both the only ones who play those positions on the team, but my sister gets all the credit. I seriously wish i would get hurt be out for a while, just so i can say, hey at least it wasnt kelly, your pitcher. Any suggestions? I love softball to death, but i am seriously considering giving it up my senior year, just to see if the coaches and players miss me and so i am not overshadowed. Any thoughts or suggestions. I would love not to give it up but I just dont know what to do.

Answer 1

i dont think that you should let your sisters attion bother you ; trust me my sister was a star swimmer and i could marley make qualifily meets and i had to lesson to people going on and on about how fast she was. i think that you should do what you like to do and not base it on if your sister is better at it than you or not.

Answer 2

You're probably getting credited just as much as her, but you don't notice it..

What I mean is.. That you're so concentrated on the fact you think everyone is crediting her for everything, you don't notice that people are crediting you just as much.

I might not be right, But it's a start.

You can also try talking to her and your parents about it.

Don't quit softball, if you love it stay. Really- Just playing, and having fun is what you should be concentrating on, Not the fact that she MAY be getting more attention.

There is a chance she could be feeling the same about you. I say, try talking to her about it.

Good luck&Feel Better

Answer 3

If she actually says that she's more important than you, you tell her that she's a jerk. No loving sister should ever say things like that.

Tell people that you love of how you feel, and it'll all turn out for the better.

Answer 4

You probably are getting credit, but youre not noticing it because youre so focused on her getting all the attention.

you shouldn't quit softball because its what you love, and the better you get at it, the more people realize how good you are, and how they need you on the team. And please don't try to hurt yourself, because then you would just be seen as useless, and not alot of people would pay attention to you, which you wouldn't want. So just stay positive and keep doing wat you love best! hope i helped

Answer 5

your sister might feel the same way

Answer 6

Be the artistic, smart one. Find something that makes you different from her and go with it. Start playing a musical instrument.

Answer 7

ok what you need to do is just become more popular in school and it will spread all the way to softball so then you don't have to quit softball when i first moved and was the new student i chose to make myself noticed just by doing random stuff like yelling in the middle of lunch or something i danced allot to and now I'm hella popular at school so just be yourself but be out there

Answer 8

Hi, I am a twin so I understand. But, think about it this way: what would you do if the person you felt overshadowed by was a friend, rather than your sister? My guess is that you would want to do better in softball, not give it up. It's never a good idea to give up something just to see if people miss you. Unfortunately, we can all be replaced! It sounds to me like your sister is also feeling insecure.