Getting her to want it again 2?

Question

I'm gonna add more details to my question. My wife does not want to have s*x. Our son is four months old. We both work full time. Our son goes to daycare. I do most of the housework and help equally with our son. Is it my fault or hers.

Answer 1

It may be painful for her!  I know for me it was quite painful until the baby was about 6 months old.  Ask her if there is anything you could do to make the experience better for her!!  Guys have a tendency to think s*x is all about them.  If they make it about the woman once in a while, the women tend to be more receptive.  You should make one of the times you have s*x all about her and nothing about you!  My husband has done this for me a couple of times and it was amazing!!  It made me feel very loved and very special and made me want to do the same for him!!  It was also nice to not have a mess to clean up after!

Answer 2

No ones, give her time she's exhausted.  I am 7 months postpartum and I am still not greatly in the mood.  It's not my husband's fault and it's not mine.  Her hormones have been all over the place for over a year.  It sometimes takes quite awhile to get your s*x drive back.  Just give her a kiss and hug and tell her how much you love her.

Answer 3

It is neither one of your fault but you need to learn to understand that woman go through big hormonal changes during and after pregnancy and it will take awhile to get her body back to normal.  Some woman get hormones that make them s*x crazy and others lose their s*x drive.  Also they face feeling unattractive plus it takes a lot out of you to raise a new baby.  It took me 1 year to get my s*x drive back after my first son, it wasn't my fault or my husbands it is just how things go sometimes.

Answer 4

It's no one's fault. Having a baby changes everything. Literally. Even if your wife's "in the mood" the baby will consantly be on her mind. The baby could  be sleeping at night and you guys could be right in the middle of it, but the moment that baby makes a squeak it could be ruined. It takes time, be patient. It's different for all new mothers.

Answer 5

I agree with all the answers. Also, nature has told her "she's done her job" by carrying and giving birth, now let her be for at least another 4-6 months. There are many other ways to please and be pleased. I didn't want to be touched anywhere after giving birth to both of my children but after about a year it all got sorted.................Be patient, be loving, be kind, be helpfull in the house and give her the respect she needs - she has done the hardest job on earth which men seem to think it's an everyday sort of thing. You will NEVER get her "to want it again" if you keep pushing her "for it"

Answer 6

Maybe she's to busy or stressed out to have s*x. Just let her be!

Answer 7

No one's fault.

After and during pregnancy women have a lot of raging hormones and changes in them, and many women lose their s*x drive completely. And raising a baby and working full time would be taking its toll on her too.

Wait it out, meanwhile be romantic, give her flowers and take her out on dates and get her amazing clothing. Make her feel young and beautiful again. When she is ready you can go for it.

Answer 8

I'm sure she wants to have s*x with you but she just doesn't feel like it.. (i dont think you will get what i mean) she's probably scared your son will wake up and she's probably tired... also her hormones could be up and down.. is she on the pill or something? i am soo scared to go on any form of contraception because i know one of the side affects could be loss of interest of s*x.. and i want to have s*x with my husband... and i have a 2yr old and 2 week old. (I also get infections when using the condom) So really we can't use contraception because it either will affect me in some way... Lol.. I would have s*x with my husband everyday but i have children.. i'm scared they'll wake up.. i'm also stressed... and i feel like s*x but i'm tired.. <<< Thats prob how your wife feels... and i do feel guilty because i really want to please my husband. ;) hope this helps..

Answer 9

no bodies fault..... a women can take a while to get back into wanting s*x...we go through a lot!!!  doing housework doesnt mean you get laid sweetheart, you should be doing that stuff and not expecting anything in return, just like woman have for years....just talk to her about it, and when she is ready she will let you know i am sure!!!