Getting married after children?

Question

We are planning on getting married in May 2009, we have 2 children. One will be 4 and the other will be 15 months.

Our daughter will be the flower girl and our son will be the ring bearer but who should I have carrying him or help him walk down the aisle? He won't be old enough to really understand what he's suppose to do. My dad will be walking me down the aisle. I could have my brother hold him but my son hasn't even met him yet (he lives across the country). His siblings will be in the wedding party, and his mom has fibermayalsia so she wouldn't be able to do it.

Answer 1

I have been thinking about the same thing i want my kids to be in it my oldest son will be 4 when we get married and my youngest son will be 2 and my daughter will be 1 so i got my hands full

Dont let know one talk sh*t to you about having your kids in the wedding cause there just hating

Answer 2

you could have your daughter pull him in a cute wagon, or push him in a decorated stroller.

Answer 3

By 15 months I bet your child would be walking. My children will be the same age and they are walking down with my matron of honor holding her hand if need be.

As for during the ceremony, we have our babysitter coming for baby control during the ceremony and wedding. It is hard to expect children that age, 15 months especially, to sit or stand for any length of time.

Answer 4

Do you have any nieces/nephews/cousins?

I was at a wedding once and they had one little boy pulling a toddler down the aisle in a wagon that was decorated in colors matching the bridesmaids dresses (flowers, ribbons, etc.)  It was really cute.

If you have another boy in mind that is old enough to pull him in a wagon that would be really cute!

edit:  oops! just saw that this was already suggested...not trying to copy anyone!

Answer 5

How about in a pretty decorated baby carriage so he doesn't get fussy being carried?

Answer 6

I am getting married this September and I also have 2 children.  My oldest, he is 9, is the ring bearer and my youngest 7 months isn't going to be in it.  He will be there but won't be a party of the ceremony, I just think he is too little and I dont' really have anyone to worry about him and I am sure I will be stressed enough.  However, like I see other people have suggested ... the wagon idea is cute.  I keep going back and forth on the issue but I just think he's too little. Good luck, and your children should be a part of your day!!!  I agree!!!

Answer 7

You could put him in a red play wagon and have your daughter pull him down the aisle. When he gets to the front, the groomsmen can take care of him, or he can sit with family members in the front row until it's his time to participate in the ceremony.

I saw this done at a wedding. It was really cute and worked out well for everyone.

Answer 8

You should have your daughter help him. Surely he'll follow her everywhere. If nessesary have her carry the rings, or tie them to him somehow. My aunt did this and eventhough it was a 6 minute walk down the asile (and I was getting frusterated, I was also a flower girl) it was beautiful, and I remember everyone bawling thier eyes out. (I was only 6)

Answer 9

I think it would be cute if your daughter held your son's hand and they walked down together.

Answer 10

What makes people think it's ok to have their children in their wedding?  I never want my children to be in my wedding, I don't think it's too appropriate.

Answer 11

I would have the 15 month old walk with the 4 year old.  He should be somewhat mobile by then and perhaps you could use one of those walking things if needed, but he'll probably be fine without it.  Especially given the fact that a child with an older sibling tends to start walking faster.

Once your father walks you down the aisle, he can sit with your son through the duration of the ceremony and he can just hang on your daughter for a few minutes until grandpa arrives!

Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

My husband went to his cousins wedding.  They too had a young baby as the flower girl.  The ring bearer pulled her down the aisle in the in a wagon.  I didn't get to go to the wedding cause I was stuck at David's bridal working on getting my dress altered for our wedding.  

If you want flower petals spread on down the aisle, maybe have someone do it before the service starts.