Getting married but parents not happy or understanding!?

Question

I am getting married to a man that I know is my soul mate. We have not been dating very long, but know each other very well. We are both old enough and mature enough to be in a relationship and understand that marriage takes commitment, hard work, and is a sacred institution. We do not have a relationship based on outward physical appearance or on physical intimacy. He is often gone for work for days at a time, sometimes weeks and we have managed to keep our relationship strong. We are spiritually, mentally, intellectually, and physically in sync with one another.

Even after explaining these types of things to my parents, all they can see is problems...they think I'm too young at 22 and losing my dreams. I already have a bachelor's in music business and am going to be finishing a master's while my soon to be husband is deployed. I am an accomplished musician and poet and have a lot going for me. They think that marrying into the military will force me lose my goals and dreams along these lines. I am perfectly happy and excited to marry the man I'm marrying and I only see good in the future as does he.

Any advice?

Answer 1

It sounds as though you know what you want, but you missed telling us one important thing...so how long have you really known this person?  You shouldn't rush into ANYTHING and why is there an all fired hurry to get married; because he's being deployed?  If that's the reason...it isn't a good one.  You'd be much wiser on building on the relationship then being another sad statistic.  Don't make your parents disappointed...they only want the best for you.  If you haven't known this man for a full year...I'd say the odds are against you that it'll work out.  Chances are you are in the infatuation stage and the test of time, is time...you should savor the engagement and learn much more about each other before committing to a life long partner.  Sometimes a poet's heart beats too fast and immediate gratification speaks immaturity.  It is far smarter to be cautious.

Answer 2

My parents were not happy when we got married. They wanted me to marry a Christian man -my husband is not a Christian. I love him very much but still feel bad that i caused them pain. But i would not change anything if i could. I love my husband.

Answer 3

22 isn't to young to get married.

I was 22 and my husband was 26 when we got married.

Its your life and if you and your boyfriend are in love and happy with each other and if you want to get married then do it.

Your an adult and know what you want in life and your parents have no say so in this matter.

Answer 4

Well, you are an adult and if the two of you love each other, then you should do what makes you happy.

Probably, your parents were hoping you might pursue some career goals before settling down to marriage, but then again, it's about your hopes and dreams.  There is nothing that says you cannot have your dreams and your beloved.

Answer 5

You're going to do what you want to but I would recommend researching and talking to military wives before you make a big commiment. My friend wanted to become an army wife but did not realize that she would have to move away from her family and start a family right away. I'm not saying all situations are alike but I can imagine wanting to leave a legacy behine if something ever happened to you. Just do your research to see if that is the lifestyle that you want long term. I hope both of you are making sacrifices for this relationship if not then that might be why your family does not approve. You are 22. I am sure your family knows about the military lifestyle and sit them down and talk to them to see why they don't approve. Then make your choice. Good luck.