Getting my parents to homeschool me?

Question

I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder about a year ago and in the past few months it has gotten really really bad. to the point where i don't even like going the the store anymore. my parents are well aware of it. we are waiting for a phone call from a therapist to set up and apointment, the therapist will come to my house for the sessions. every morning before school i get really upset to the point where i could cry- again my mom knows this. i told her i think that homeschooling would be a great idea but she doesn't want to do it..i don't know why she wants me to suffer like that. she said she would only do it if the therapist i haven't seen yet says its ok...

i've printed out papers about homeschooling already but she blows them off until i see this doctor that hasn't called yet. i'm getting impatient and school is beginning to be too much to handle.

does anyone know of what i can do?

Answer 1

find  some sane happy people, pillars of the church and community, people like that, instead of codependent suicidal people like your folks, its a very SERIOUS ISSUE, ask yourself. Do you want to be like them?

get sane even keeled folks to teach you

anyone who teaches you should be somebody you actually could say, i want to follow in their footsteps

not your parents  (any of them?) I think

Answer 2

refuse to go to school or talk to your dad

Answer 3

I have really bad social anxiety too, I know what your feeling. My mom used to homeschool me and my sibilings, but not because of any problems such as social anxiety, she just didn't like the puplic school system, and thought we could recieve a better education from her. My mom is now dealing with many problems in our home and does not have the time and energy to homeschool us, my younger brothers went to public school last year, one started having problems with anxiety and ocd, he made it though last year, but this year started refusing to go to school. He's currently doing his work from home, but my mom and the school are working on getting him back in school. Last year, my mom sent me to an alternative school program that's with the public school, even though I only had to go into the school place once a week, and meet with a small class, it was still really really hard, and I missed many classes. But, if I were to give up and have my mom take me out of the program, I would have felt like I had failed and felt terrible, and I knew that it would only feed my anxiety, It's still really hard this year, but I'm getting throuhg it. it's the same with my brother, he has to go back to school, because if his anxiety isn't challenged, it will just take over him, and it pretty much has already.. he like, never leaves the house..

I don't think you should be completley pulled out of school, your anxeity needs to be challenged, but not so much that you just can't handle it. Maybe disscuss with the school some accomodations that could make school easier for you, like leaving early or something..or what I would strongly suggest is that you see if the school has an alternitive program, hopfully something where you do most of your work at home, but you still have to go to the school or somewhere and turn it in and stuff, so you won't be completely giving in to your anxiety. Hopefully your therapist will help (and it maybe you could try medication too), and you'll maybe even be able to go back to school.

If you ever need someone to talk to who can relate to what your going through, seriously email me!

my email is [e-mail]

I would really enjoy hearing from someone with similar problems  : )

Answer 4

Staying home with Homeschooling only feeds your illness and doesnt help you learn how to interact with others in Society. Do yourself and others a favor stay in regular school and develop some social skills. It will happen.

Answer 5

I went through the same thing. And I too had to be homeschooled, but you know what? I honestly regret it. It made college harder to go through. And it destroys your social skills...something that you really can't afford when your have social anxiety disorder in the first place. You will wind up very lonely.

Trust me you don't want homeschooling...it's nice to have the comfort of not dealing with people but the truth is it will only make other areas of your life harder.

Your parents are doing the right thing by getting you therapy while your still in school. I didn't get any help until I was on my own in the world and I SO WISH that I had parents like yours, that actually got you help. Mine didn't get me much help at all. :(  They wanted to homeschool me just do they didn't have to deal with the school's dean because I was skipping school all the time.

I wish I could turn back time and get help when I was in school because therapy and medication REALLY DOES WORK.  BUT to fully overcome your Anxiety you must seek help in the way of medication as well. One or the other just isn't as effective as both.

Good luck and I really hope you get better soon.

Answer 6

I was the same way.  In Jr. High school I would cry every day at school.  It was uncontrollable because I always had negative thoughts and was always scared of what people thought about me, of if I would accidently say something dumb out loud and everyone would be mean to me.  I had so much trouble in public school.... I asked my mom if she could home school me for high school.  At first, she didn't like the idea.  She just told me to take deep breaths, and that high school would be much different than Jr. High.  BUT, in the middle of the summer before I went to high school, she told me she wanted to home school.  SO, I was homeschooled for all of my high school years.  I LOVED IT!  It gave me more time to think about my studies without the anxiety of being around my peers.  Just pray and maybe your parents will come around.  Let them know that you will do 100% of the work, and that you'll help your mom with the grading book, cirriculum ordering, and even teaching.  With homeschool, you can actually teach yourself, like I did.  My mom didn't have to work at it at all.  Good luck!  ^^

Answer 7

Well this is just a suggestion; I recently left public school not because of social anxiety disorder, but I just felt that public school was no longer for me. I brought the idea up to my parents about homeschooling & they were shocked. But I explained to them how school isn't like it was when they were in school. There is a lot more to deal with socially, academically, etc. So I proposed the idea of being homeschooled and my mom said that with her job & such she wouldn't guarentee enough time to be my "teacher". That's when the idea of online-schooling helped! I looked into in and now I have been doing it for a little over a year and I totally love it! You do everything at your own pace and your parents don't even have to be around(unless of course you ask for their help), but it is not a obligation for their time. Many states have different online schooling programs. Mine is free because it is technically a public school. I have all online textbooks,lessons,etc, so there is no need to buy anything. I suggest feeling your mom out on that subject, and then research more. Good luck :)

Answer 8

My son finished the 8th grade in public school with straight F's and went from that to straight A's and B's being home schooled. Online charter schools are considered the same as public schooling. My son graduated an online charter school and now attends University of Dayton ( a private university ) with scholarships.

Home schooling can work for some. The student needs to be self disciplined enough to do the work and care. Generally less work is involved with an online charter school than in a regular public school. You are also able to work at your own pace. k12 will customize your curriculum and make sure you are where you need to be

This is the school my other children are now attending,

http://www2.k12.com/getk12/index.html...

Depending on where you live they may be a help, if not, there are online charter schools all over.

They will provide you with the computer, printer, supplies and books that you need as well as teachers and academic advisors. This is the same as a public school but ONLINE at home.

Answer 9

It's not that she's trying to upset you. She may not have the patience to teach and she might also need a break from her anxiety riddled child. I should know, I have an anxiety disorder and so does my son. When we're together too often, we argue.  

The school system has to provide teachers to come to you if it is discovered that going to school would be damaging to your psyche. They have to do it for free, by the way.  I can't tell if you're wanting your mom to teach you or if you're wanting to be taught at home by the school system.

The school system has to give you an education whether you darken their doorstep or not. For now, it would be better for you to stay home so that you can get treatment while still being able to learn your assignments.  Right now, going to school is so anxiety-provoking that it's a waste of your energy.  

I should know, I have PTSD and am unable to work. Why go to school if you can't function while you are there?

See if you can be put on medication. It doesn't have to be anti-psychotics or anti-depressants.  My son was on Tenex (a blood pressure medication) when he was younger and it worked out just fine. So, get on meds, talk to the therapist and learn at home while you are going through this process.

That's the way I'd do it, anyway.

Answer 10

Are you really wanting to homeschool, or hide at home?  Did something happen at school that has caused you to dread it? Homeschooling still has many social opportunities.  I guess the advantage is that you can choose which days you do it.  Homeschool doesn't have to cost a lot, so I've given you some links to cheap homeschooling.

Don't you think, though, that there are alternatives right at your own school?  The therapist will help you be able to hold your head up high and not let you sink further down.

Listen, years ago, a very famous comedian named Charlie Chaplin said, "Nothing is permanent in this wicked world - not even our troubles."  It's true.  This WILL get better.  What you need to do is focus on yourself and getting better.  Maybe your parents would be willing to get together with the therapist, school counselor, and your teachers, and work out some goals to making life a little easier.

If you think about it, there aren't a lot of opportunities during the school day to actually socialize, except at lunch.  The rest of the time is instruction.  Find one or two people you can sit with each day at lunch, muddle through it, and do what the therapist suggests.  

Also, there's this really good tape -- called Attacking Anxiety, by Lucinda Bassett -- if you can get hold of it, you'll get some really good advice, and it won't take a year to hear it all!

Good luck to you.  You CAN do this

Answer 11

Your mom is probably doing the best she can. She may want to get the therapist's opinion before making the decision to homeschool, or she may not have the time or energy to do it.  Homeschooling is hard work for the parent as well as the student. Just wait it out until you can see the therapist. You can discuss homeschooling with your mom again after that first meeting.

If you do end up homeschooling, make sure that you don't let your social anxiety cut you off from the world. Get involved in activities which get you out of the house at least a few times a week. Use your interests and/or skills as a starting point and find activities which will feed your interests and take advantage of your skills. If, for example you love animals, than join 4-H and choose a project. If you like music than take lessons in voice or an instrument. You can also get involved in volunteer projects or (if you're old enough) get a part time job.

Answer 12

Go to regular school. If you feel uncomfortable around some kids hang out with the nerdy kids because they make you feel better about yourself.

Answer 13

i know how you feel i think iv got some social thing to i cant interact with people ,they say i also have some kind of Aspergers Syndrome.but anyway you should try and get this therapist to say that its ok to be Home Schooled

you should just say that its hard for you to go to school and all that,

people always say that ''you have to go to school so you socialize with other kids'' im going to school for 12 years now and i still cant socialize

only time you socialize is at Lunch time

at least in your country you are allowed to home school

its basicly illegal where i live

well i hope you will get home schooled,im sure u would feel better (i know i would feel better if i was home schooled)