Getting nervous about having a baby...?

Question

Let me begin by saying that I am pregnant and due on Sept 5th. Now, I am not talking about the labor and delivery part (which is scary in its own way), but actually having a baby to care for. My husband and I have been extremely excited throughout my pregnancy, but recently I've been worried about what it will be like to have a newborn.

I realize there's going to be hard times, but everything I've read is about how stressful it is having a baby, and how you'll never sleep again and that it can be really hard on marriages. It's all a little discouraging. Did anyone else feel this way? Is it really as bad as it sounds?

Answer 1

come on,

anyway Best Luck!

Answer 2

You are going to be luckiest Woman In this whole World.

To be a mother is a great great great feeling. Just enjoy this time. I know you will nervous about your pregncy but dont worry God this their for your help.

When you see your angle you forget all the pain....

Good Luck...

...Jiya...

Answer 3

i had a baby girl at 16 years old and another at 19 i am now 21 and it was the best thing i ever done i was really scared to just like you and everything i read made it even worse lol

dont worry mate im sure you will be a fantastic mum

it is hard work but at the end of everyday you will feel so great because your finally a mum

my life changed so so so much when i became a mother and it all changed for the best

good luck mate i hope this gives you a little hope

its not as scary as you think  

Answer 4

once you see your beautiful baby,and its smile then it won't matter because you'll love him/her and you would do any thing for him/her

Answer 5

First, congratulations!

I think that most first time parents feel this way.  I know that I did.  It's a whole new world.  Yes it is difficult, but the joys of your new life will  more than make up for it.

And believe it or not, it goes by so fast, you almost forget about all the hard parts.  

My first newborn is a teenager now and I long for the days that I could cradle her in my arms and a little kiss and hug would solve her problems.

Answer 6

It's not as bad as it sounds. All babies are different, some sleep through the night from birth, others require more attention. You will be fine, it sounds like you are ready. Try not to worry so much.  

Answer 7

Everyones experiences are so different and so varied. For every woman that finds caring for a baby stressful and hard there will be another who breezes it.

Expect disrupted sleep, tiredness and some initial overwhelming feelings both good and bad in the first months but you will find your own way as the weeks pass. It's unfair for people to say you'll never sleep again, but most women when they become mothers never sleep quite so soundly again which is why we so often hear our children the minute they cry out during the night, whatever their age!!!

Just take and enjoy each day as it comes when your baby arrives, but for now, just relax, chill and enjoy the bump....   xxxxx

Answer 8

I'm sure all of your concerns are normal.  Yes there will be sleepless nights and times of stress but don't think about that, think about the rewards!  As for your marriage, how was it before the baby?  If it was good then it will be even better!  Congratulations!!!

Answer 9

By the time I was 36 weeks, I was absolutely terrified at the thought of being a mum. Like you, I had been really excited at getting pregnant (I'm an "older" mum) and breezed through the whole thing, until labour loomed and everything started to sink in!

My doctor was very reassuring, being a mum herself, she told me this is a very common reaction, and that I would surprise myself at how I would cope.

And I'd have to say she was right - I did have moments after we were home from hospital where I had no idea what I was doing, but talking to friends and family (as well as doing lots of checking on the internet!) helped me get through those times.

Once I settled into the idea that I was a mum, it was like "I was born to do this!"... and now I wouldn't have it any other way.

Yes, it can be stressful having a baby, but it's also wonderful. You'll sleep when you can in the early weeks, but you'll all settle into a routine soon enough.

And yes, it can be tough on marriages, but it's also something that can strengthen your relationship, as you learn to work together to raise this child.

And... I'd have to say that watching my husband and son playing together always brings a lump to my throat. We're all close, but seeing the special bond they have is the most precious thing in the world to me!

Answer 10

I was worried about the same types of things that you have mentioned (particularly about the effect it would have on my relationship with hubby).  All i can say is that there was times where I have been extremely sleep deprived, and initially i felt like i had absolutely no idea about how to care for a child (i had never even changed a babies nappy before), but i soon learned.  Just remember that most people don't talk about all the wonderful things about having a child, we're all so used to talking about the sleep deprivation, pooey nappies and blah blah blah.... the fact is that it is amazing.  my husband and i have become much closer, we are a real team now.  our son gives us both so much joy.  It is such a privilegee to watch someone grow and develop.  The positives far outweigh the difficult times a million times over.  Good luck :)