Getting over a married man.......?

Question

I made a mistake getting involved with a married man. We had a great friendship until we got physical. We didn’t have s*x but I gave him a BJ. Ever since that day, it seems like he wants noting to do with me but he doesn't have any guts to tell me.

I feel so heartbroken and used. It’s been a week since and I am still hurting.

So how long does it take to get over a married man

Answer 1

I hate to tell you this, but a BJ is s*x. He got what he wanted from you and he left. Find something to do with your time and grow up.

Answer 2

You deserve what you're getting.  I bet his wife would be more heart broken if she found out her husband got a BJ from you.   If she did find out your heart might not be the only thing hurting.  Just get over it!!  

Answer 3

He realized he made a mistake. You need to leave him alone and go out and have some fun with single guys. And by the way, you let yourself get used.  

Answer 4

the same amount of time it takes to get over a single man I guess...you expect him to have guts? come on now.

Answer 5

He is embarrassed and scared it went this far. He is married and therefore committed to somebody else, but you know this already and dont need anyone telling you.

You ask how long it takes to get over a married man ? the answer is the same as it takes to get over any broken relationship.

He was not special because he was married, he took advantage of you and you were willing so let it be.

It takes two to tango.

Answer 6

just keep telling yourself you can do better and distract yourself by hanging out with your friends and in no time you'll have him out of your head.

Answer 7

He's not into you- he was just hoping to get a little side action without his wife noticing.  After your little encounter, though, he probably felt really guilty and decided never to cheat again, so he broke off all contact with you and isn't man enough to confront you.

Every time you start to feel bad about this man, put yourself in his wife's place and think about how wretched you'd feel if your husband ever cheated on you.  That will turn the heartbreak into anger.  I hope you learned your lesson about messing with other women's husbands.

Answer 8

You asked how long this will take to get over.  It's going to take more than a week.  You're not just "getting over a married man".  You're getting over the *entire* situation, which includes your own guilt for your actions, guilt which is reinforced  by his avoiding you now.  In short, you are feeling toxic and you need to get that stuff out of your system.  I agree with the person who suggested you hang out with single guys, but I also think you need to take a break from sexual involvement for a bit - hang out, have fun (in groups), and feel better about yourself.  Do something that makes you feel proud of yourself - whether it's gardening, painting, crafts, fixing your car, whatever....but you need to feel better about yourself so you can (a) move past this and (b) not be as likely to do it or anything like it again.  

Answer 9

Disgusting... both of you are completely disgusting.  I have no respect for either one of you.  You make me sick.

Answer 10

Ummm, you don't have a right to feel hurt. Sorry, but it's true, he's married, you had no right to touch him in any way. You have no rights to his feelings, you have no right to his body, all those rights belong to his WIFE! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and find a guy who isn't married. What did you expect, anyways? That he'd leave his wife, and just run away with you? How can you act like you're the one who got screwed? His wife did!