Getting the old spark back?

Question

I've noticed in the last few months (post-baby) me and my husband aren't as close as we once were.. romantically or emotionally. So now I find myself thinking about other men . Sometimes shamelessly flirting with other men for just the simple attention it brings. Of course means nothing to me other then that and I never would do anything with it, but I feel like I have wronged my husband in some way when I do those things. I wonder if there is something more I can be doing to relight that flame that used to be there, and fend off some of this feeling of being alone?? HELP!

Answer 1

Flirting (as long as that is as far as it goes) will make you feel sexier, so don't worry about that.  Also since there is a new baby try to set a date night ATLEAST once a month where you get a sitter and spend one night out of the house a week.

Answer 2

You just had a baby and you need to flirt with strange men to make yourself feel better?

GROSS!

Run around the block and swim some laps and be a MOM.....you'll feel better.

Geez, what's the matter with some people?!

Answer 3

I don't think the flirting is harmless.  Men can't read your mind that you wouldn't do anything, and most will read flirtation as a sexual advance.  To get yourself out of that mindset that you need attention from other men, you need to turn your flirtation on your husband.  Send him naughty text messages as if he were a stranger.  Plan date nights for just the two of you.  Try to treat him as if he were the new love of your life, and not the guy whose smelly socks you pick up off the floor and put in the laundry.  Most men will respond to their wives being flirtatious.