Getting through an abortion?

Question

Its been 3 weeks since my abortion and Im still feeling really, really, really ****. I did the right thing, i know that, but I just can't stop crying over it and re-living it. Before you say i shouldn't have been having s*x, I already know that. I was on the pill and we used a condom. Guess we were just unlucky.

How can I get over this and begin to move on?

Im only just 17, so the timing isn't right. At all.

Answer 1

The feelings you are having are grieving for what might have been, for what you couldn't handle, for having to make such a difficult choice, despite taking care not to get pregnant.

You grieve for your loss.  You have every right to be depressed about this in so many ways.  Women who miscarry(the technical term is abort) suffer from depression as well.  Women who have still born children are in the same boat.

You need to talk to a counselor and consider using antidepressants for awhile to help you get back on track.

That being said, as with any death, it takes time to get back to a "normal" life, when it starts to stop hurting every day.  It takes time, it really does. It starts with an hour, then two , then eventually a day, then you will have more and more peace.  After my parents died, it took quite awhile to get past the immense, immediate grief. Give yourself at least a year to get better.  

I'm very sorry that you had to make a choice at all, but I am glad that you had that choice available to you.  You appear to have thought the whole thing through and made a choice YOU needed to make.  It's not an easy choice to make, no matter what anyone else thinks.

Be gentle to yourself, and sometime down the road, when it's time, rejoice in the children you have them.

Answer 2

Don't let ANYBODY make you feel guilty about the decision you had to make. You did what was best for you personally.There is plenty of time in your future to have children.  You did the right thing.  Been there, done that and it was a very similar situation.

Answer 3

I think you made a good choice. I do. But counseling would not hurt.

Dont listen to the bible thumpers

Answer 4

I had an abortion at 18, so i know exaclty how you feel. You think what the h**l did i just do? I am 44 and still think wow i could of hsad 3 kids not 2. But you do move on and life will show u later that u did the right thing. Being 17 and a mother is def to young. You will want to enjoy yoru 20's.

I also got prego using an IUD and a condom. **** happens! But , don't be afraid. Take it slowly and if your partner doesnt understand well s***w them.

I hope this was a littel help/

Answer 5

you can ask for a counselor, don't bottle it up you really need to talk to someone or it will affect you for a long time to come. take care x