Gift for a bride I don't know?

Question

My brother's getting married next week. live 2000 miles from the rest of my family and I have never met his bride to be only spoken on the phone once or twice. I was asked to be a bridesmaid and my daughter was asked to be flower girl and I accepted.

I found out that since this girl is also far from her family and friends, most of who won't be able to come to the wedding, she felt uncomfortable about having a bridal shower held for her. My brother and she also picked really modest gifts on their registries. This is OK because most of our family will give them money anyway.

So, I feel like I should give her a special gift before the wedding but I don't know her and if I ask my brother he will say it's not necessary. Can you think of something useful or sentimental which would be appropriate under these circumstances?

Answer 1

A real nice crystal / or glass  picture frame that will hold their wedding picture

Answer 2

Do you know anything/much about this woman? For example, a special gift for me would be a yarn bouquet. For my sister it would be stationary. Perhaps you could do something to welcome her to the family, is there a special dish that your family all likes? She might appreciate the recipe, or a book of family recipes (get all your relatives in on that).

Without knowing more about your family dynamic and your sister-in-law-to-be I'd have to just stick with the usual feminine fripperies.  

Answer 3

a bracelet to wear as her "someting new"

stationary with Mrs. (new last name) on it

a sister-in-law poem or card

Answer 4

I wholeheartedly agree with whoever said gift certificate to a spa.  I was planning on doing my nails and toes the day before, but didn't want to spend any more than that on "pampering" myself.  My sister used www.wayspa.com to find a local spa near me (she's out of state, too) and they sent me a gift card.  Then she can make the appointment online.  It was perfect!  It was only $40 for a basic facial (my first, but well worth it), and it meant the world to me.  

If that won't work for her (or you want to give a gift that lasts), my other favorite gift was from my coworkers.  My photographer is also a coworker, so they set it up with him beforehand to get a frame with 3 photos.  Between pictures and the wedding, he chose a set of photos of us, printed them, and put them in the frame.  It was beautiful.  The set is us looking at each other, than getting closer, about to kiss, and the final photo is the actual kiss.  It's also in black and white and looks very professional.  That meant so much to us, and it was neat to have it immediately (I got to see it at the reception).  Depending on the order of things, it may not be possible to have that done the same day, but you can do the frame, and set it up with the photographer before hand to get a certain set of shots, and you pay him for the prints and the extra help.  

Answer 5

i would probably either get her a nice  picture frame, or a good,pretty  photo album, or , maybe a charm with her wedding date, on it. and, something off her bridal registary.

Answer 6

give her a nice set of jewellery every girl loves it i think

Answer 7

You could send a gift card to a spa near her for a pre-wedding massage or manicure.  Or maybe give her a nice nightgown at the rehearsal dinner and tell her it's for the honeymoon.  I received little gifts like this from my bridesmaids and it meant a lot.  

Answer 8

these are a couple of things i would appreciate:

http://www.personalcreations.com/shop/pr...

or they have other wedding throws, which they can display in their house.

http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/w...

you can personalize it with "our family" or "smith family" and then get pictures of close relatives to put in there for her