Gift for mother-in-law at my wedding?

Question

I would like some opinions from mothers out there...

I am getting married in less than a month, and my parents haven't been able to help out as much as they'd like financially. My mother-in-law-to-be has helped out SO much, and I'd like to do something to show her how much I appreciate it. Would it be weird for me to give her a gift at my own wedding?

For those who think it's a good idea, what kind of gifts would you suggest? She lives in the country, loves flowers, nature, hiking, etc.

For those that think it's a bad idea, what would you suggest I do to show my appreciation other than a simple thank-you?

Do you think that my own mother might feel offended?

Answer 1

I think it's important that both your in-laws and your parents be acknowledged with special gifts.  For a unique gift idea you can give them gift certificates to have their portraits painted.  Adding a special note or writing a letter to your mother-in-law will let her know how you much gratitude you especially feel for all the help she has given you.

Answer 2

what a lovely thought.  dont forget your parents but a gift to your mother in law is teriffic....suggestions depending on your budget night be a gift certificate  for dinner at a rustic inn.  or perhaps a class at the local craft store for flower arranging . something that she wouldnt ordinarily buy for herself.

Answer 3

It is actually customary that you buy both parents gifts for your wedding along with your attendants.  This is a gesture that shows thanks for all the support they have given you, not only in planning the wedding, but in your life.

Answer 4

If you do give a gift, you need to give a gift to both parents.  Even though your Mom in Law has helped so much, your own Mom would be hurt more than you realize by you buying a gift for one and not the other.  Things that happen on wedding days are things that are remembered for a lifetime, either good or bad.  

Solution- give each set of parents flowers on the morning of your wedding, or the day before.  Call a florist, and have identical (or very similar) arrangements delivered to each of their houses.  

Here is where you can distinguish between the two of them-  Write a note or short letter to go with each of the arrangements.  Deliver the notes to the Florist ahead of time, so the Florist can deliver the note along with the flowers when they go to the house.  A heart felt letter would be appreciated by both sets of parents, and you can say what you would like without the other one knowing and feelings getting hurt.

Answer 5

heart shaped locket or heart shaped pendent.

Answer 6

find her a nice country frame so that she can put a wedding pic of you two in it, a nice country vase with some fresh flowers,

http://www.poetrygift.com/motherinlaw.ht...

( you could copy this and put it in a nice country frame)

http://www.findgift.com/Occasions/Weddin...

http://www.aspecialgift.com/wedding-hand...

also dont forget you own parents even though they couldnt help out as much still get them something its only fair, even if you spend a little more on the MIL is fine as long as you get your parents something!!