Gift for my son's first mom?

Question

She asked me to make her a homeade quilt, which I purchased the fabric and started the quilt top before my son was born.

I am wondering what to do about backing the quilt. I was thinking about using the receiving blankets I used for our son. Any first mom's feelings? I thought it could make her feel good, but I wasn't sure. She's very cold natured, and recently left most of her things at her ex's, so chances are, she'll need a quilt. Also, she asked me for an outfit once, so I know she wanted something of his. Would the receiving blankets be too much, or should I just back it with fabric?

Answer 1

Sorry that confused me :\

Answer 2

You are his mum, she put him for adoption so dont give away anything you cherish too much to make her feel better. It is not your job to make her feel better and although it seems you owe her something you cant live yours and your sons life feeling like you have to tiptoe round her wants and needs. You need and deserve those special things in your special treasures collections to share with your baby as he grows.

I say just back it with fabric. She has the outfit that is the special treasure she has of his. The quilt is a gift of thanks. The magic of your son and his life must stay with you otherwise you are going to get into a tangle of emotions as will she.

You are your sons mother a gift of thanks is indeed appropriate but to indulge her every wish to continually have little mementos is perhaps too much.

You know the situation better then I so I am just sharing my thoughts on your quesition.

Best of Luck x*x

Answer 3

Well, you could make her a scrapbook  of her son over the years. Thats's a good idea. A quilt? ehh. Think of something else honey.

Answer 4

How cute!  I'm sure she will treasure the quilt backed with baby's receiving blankets.  

What a lovely gesture

Answer 5

You can also use old baby clothes then the quilt can be reversible...........BLESSINGS YAHOO

Answer 6

Something else that you could add to the front of the quilt or to one of the receiving blankets is handprints.  Get some fabric paint and have your little guy put a couple of handprints in a corner.  Very special and personal in addition to the receiving blankets.

Answer 7

I think using the receiving blankets seems like a really sweet, and special idea!

Answer 8

yes that would be a very sweet idea i dont think the recieving blanket would be to much or she would of never asked for a outfit from him she wants something to cherish and the quilt with the recieving blanket would be the perfect idea

Answer 9

I've actually made quilts out of my childrens old clothes. I lft the zippers and pockets in and even some of the little feet.

I love it. When they get older I will put momentos, like a lock of their hair in a pocket and things like that. My son was 3 lbs and his preemie stuff is so stinkin' cute.

I keep adding to the quilt as they get bigger.

If you decide to back it with fabric you could sneek a few pieces of his clothes inside.

Answer 10

I'd back it with soft flannel, and use the receiving blankets to make (or back) pillow shams  I just don't like lots of seams on quilt backs.

Answer 11

As a birth mom, I think that would be the sweetest thing ever!  I know if my son's adoptive parents did that for me I'd never put it down!  I think it is healthy for the birth parents to have keepsakes and pictures of their child and adoptive parents.  It isn't right to just pretend they don't exist.

You are truly a kind person, it is so great to see an adoptive parent caring so much about the birth mother.

Answer 12

Confusing? First mom? Are you the second mom? I think that would be very sweet but if you are the mom would you really want to give up more than one or two especially to a person who may not appreciate it? I can see one or two but don't give all your things away to make another happy. Share.

Answer 13

I think that is very thoughtful and I'm sure she would appreciate the quilt...especially things with a personal touch...something that belongs to him...it's nice to see someone thinking about the feelings of a first mother

Answer 14

That's very sweet of you, I know I'd appreciate a quilt that had the receiving blanket back. I would treasure it always.

Answer 15

One of my most treasured belongings is the receiving blanket my son was wrapped in to come home from the hospital. I think that is an amazing idea!