Gifts for mothers?

Question

His father is a G'man, his step-father is a reader, as is my step father. We've purchased rather expensive ifts for everyone in our wedding party. Our mothers, however, are not active participants, other than the regular "mom" duties. We're thinking of giving eachother's mother a lockett, along with a hand written letter thanking them for raising the person that we love. Does this sound corny?

*Also, he has a step-mother, she's sort of a recent addition to the family, and he really has no relationship with her, good or bad. I've ordered her a mother's corsage, but would it be wrong NOT to give her a gift too?

Answer 1

Mother, mother-in-law, stepmother. . .if they're a part of the "family". . .they're part of the family; whether we like them or not.  Giving her a "gift", that appears genuine and sincere, could only be a GOOD thing.  If there were no feelings whatsoever before. . .good or bad. . .it could ONLY help to "build" a good rapport!  

So. . .yes. . .it WOULD be wrong NOT to give her a gift, too.  She may be the MOST wonderful person in the world!  Until she demonstrates differently, I think we always owe anyone new "the benefit of the doubt".  I dare say. . .you would want that, too!

Remember. . .gift cards and day spas are always welcomed gifts.  And the ratio of returns is. . .0%.  

I think your gesture with the "mother's corsage" was nice, too; but she would still warrant a "gift" of . . . SOME kind!

Answer 2

I think a locket and a hand written letter are a beautiful idea! I absolutely LOVE the thought of a hand written letter to your future MiL about your fiance, in fact, I might steal that idea myself now!!! (With credit to you of course!).

What more heartfelt way of thanking someone than by penning, in your own hand and your own words, a tome of appreciation?? His mother (and yours) will be in tears, I guarantee it!

Good luck, it sounds fantastic!!!

Answer 3

I don't think you need to get her a gift, especially not as you're making the gifts a thank-you for raising the other (which sounds corny, yes, but all really sweet things tend to). Getting her the corsage recognises her 'position' in the family, and I'm sure she will understand that the gifts are reflecting the relationships you have with your mothers, not who they are married to.

Answer 4

Yes, I would get the mothers something for their love and support. The locket is fine, another idea is a photo album, it can be a small brag book, or a larger one depending on your budget.

If his stepmother offered anything before the wedding in duties or love or support, then she gets a gift, too. Maybe one photo in a nice frame.