Girl Problem Please Please Help Me?

Question

Okay this is kinda a long story, get ur pillows lol.

Okay i met this girl three years ago, in one school. We became really good friends, and i liked her a lot, but i didn't ask her out cause i didn't know if she felt the same way about me and if she didn't i didn't want it to ruin our friendship so i never asked her out. After school ended we hung out once during summer vacay, and we spoke a few times. then back to school, she was in the same class as me but because i started hanging out with a bad crowd(lets not go into that) we stopped talking to each other much. And a mutual friend came up to me around the end of that year(which also happened to be our last year in the school we were in) and was like wtf she really liked you and u blew her off, and i was really surprised that she liked me(and i was so surprised that i didn't realize, but w/e I'm a dumb guy ...). After finding out that she liked me sooo much and i blew her off and she cried about the whole situation i felt really terrible and then we all left the same school we we in and we went to separate HS's. I didn't talk to her much my freshman year of HS( only like 10 times max). But during this summer i txted her cuz i found her number in one of my old books and i found out she had a BF...i was at my friends house at that point ad i screamed out F*%K and his parents came running in and were like what happened and i apologized a lot for cursing loll...that was besides the point...so the next day i txted her and was like u wanna hang out, and she was liked yeah and she seemed really excited. So the day came and we went to see a movie then we went to her house to hang out, and i saw her parent for the second time (cuz i met him once before)...then we went and watched TV downstairs in her house and during one of the movies she said something to me and i turned to look at her and she kissed me:)...after that she got closed to me and as the movie went on we kissed again then we ended up making out...after this i had dinner with her family and her parents really loved me...after dinner we went back downstairs to watch another movie and we ended up making out again. At like 11 pm i left and i txted her on the way home saying we should definitely hang out again, and she said we should. So we got together again and we ended up making out again, and this happened like another 3 times to this day, but the last time we were together although we were laying down together, (and i had my hand in inappropriate place) she wouldn't let me kiss her...i thought she was just teasing me at first cuz we did make out like 2 times but at the end o the night i was like goodnight, and i went to kiss her good night and then she backed up and i was like WTF( in my mind) and she was like im being a bad girlfriend to ____(her bf name lol). So now it kinda sounds like she's choosing him over me, but im not quite sure whats on her mind, i honestly love this girl soooooo much, and i would take a bullet to save her life, and Ive lost a lot of sleep over this situation...cuz i kinda feel her slipping away because of her current bf and if she does pick him i would be so devastated... someone please help...any advice is greatly appreciated...Thanx to anyone who helps

Answer 1

It sounds like she reallyy likes you too. She enjoyed those times with you, but her consience is hitting hard on her. She has feelings for the other guy as well (probably not as much feelings for you because if she didn't like you she wouldn't be meeting with you) and didn't want to be kissed because she felt really bad for cheating on her boyfriend. Her consience is coming in now and she feels bad being in a relationship with someone and cheating on them so obviously. She is in a mixed situation right now and doesn't know if she should break up with the other guy and stay with you, or spend a little more time with the other guy (because she likes him right now and doesn't know if it's worth to leave a good guy like him at this point). However, she likes you a lot and wouldn't be asking you to hang out if she didn't.

You should give her some time now if you want to be with her. She how she is reacting and all. If it's really obvious that she likes that guy WAYYY much and really doesn't want to be with you, let it go for now and try to be with her another time. If not, (as in if she has mized feelings and still acts good with you and hangs out with you-- you'll feel this), then come straight up to her and ask her what her decision is. Ask her straight up who she wants to be with and who she likes and that you can't be constantly in a state of mystery with that other guy in mind. Tell her you like her and that you want to be with her (you want her to yourself) and it's up to her to make the decision who she wants.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Well you put her in a situation where she feels like she has to choose. All this time you're thinking about how you feel about her and not about how she may feel about having a bf and starting to like you again...keep in mind that she might be wary because you've already blown her off once without realizing and it hurt her. Don't make her choose. Just talk to her. Tell her what you're feeling, but make sure that you're willing to remain friends with her even if she doesn't leave the other guy for you. She obviously doesn't want to lose your friendship. But nothing can be done unless you talk to her.