Girl Problems? Can someone just give me some advice?

Question

I need some help...I met this girl through a friend in person and over the summer we got to know each other more and then we started having cam s*x. Then when we get together, we would kiss and have s*x also, but we never really talked about the relationship part because she's a friend of an ex girlfriend of mine...but the two haven't talked for months (its a little more complicated but there is way to much detail...i know it would confuse you). Just the other night after we saw a movie, we would just have dry s*x and kiss...then after she left she texted me asking if it feels weird. I didn't really have that much feelings for her, because of the 'situation'. I do like her as a friend and I enjoyed the time we had together, but now she's asking me 'where she stands' and I don't know what to say. Shes cute and fun...but i have problems with relationships...because prior to them i always feel lonely and depressed and once i have one i want back out if it and go back being the way i was before. And we don't really have the same interest in music...i don't know how important that is for a relationship really...but she likes country and i dispise it. I don't know what to tell her...i tried pulling...maybe we should be friends line (even though that is really stupid) and she wants to know if we want to start over slow...i dont know what to do...with school starting up soon for me (im in my second year of college) i just need some guidence. so can someone please help me.

-matt

Answer 1

maybe you can just try telling her that you don't really want a relationship right now, tell her that the friends with benefits sort of thing seemed to be working out, and mention that if she doesn't want to do that anymore then you're okay with just being friends.

hope i helped!

Answer 2

Before you have s*x with a girl spell out the conditions.  I'm not interested in a relationship right now so if we have s*x it's just s*x.  I would seriously consider getting to know a girl first before jumping in the sack though.  The fact that this girl is a friend of your ex is kind of weird for you. Getting to know a girl is important to form a relationship, having similar interests is important, country makes me hurl as well.  Never say just be friends, girls never go for it.  Tell her you do like her but you don't have deep feelings for her.  Don't make up bullcrap either, tell the truth.  Take some time to get into your studies then poof, the right girl will just be right in front of you one day.....I guarantee it!  But take it slow.

Answer 3

honestly i say try for a realtionship unless u feel Absolute nothing.

and lol music has nothin to do with it.

Make it like a casual realtionship though be like cute hold hands in public says shes pretty and chill as friends but u dont have to act in  love and then after a month in that stage and u still dont have feelings tell her and move on

Answer 4

Put your head on study first and your head on her or their shoulders later.

Time to say, ``Let`s get married tomorrow!`` still too far away and you still hesitate on which one to......

Answer 5

scum... i have no clue...

Answer 6

well you are in a very good situation!!!! Since you don't have any feelings for her just tell her that you love her and you want to have a relationship.That way you will keep getting s*x from her and then when you are tired of having s*x with her tell her i have lost feelings for you and i think it is best we break up.This always works!!!promise me!!!

Answer 7

Sound like you both need a pleasure friend , not serious kind ?   nothing wrong with that i say ?

Answer 8

tell her what you just said. being the nice way. or you can juust say she was a one night stand