Girl appears in dreams all the time?! HELP! This is freaking me out!!?

Question

Okay I'll keep this short. There's a girl that I knew a while ago and I loved her a lot. I thought I'd be with her forever. I ended up hurting her by something I said, and she didn't forgive me for it. It hurt me a lot.

So I try moving on; I met a nice girl, just friends for now, but I really like her and it's helped me deal with the first girl I was hurt by. All of a sudden, without thinking about it, I start getting multiple dreams about this girl I initially loved. I had stopped thinking about her, and she was never in my thoughts. But in the dreams, she returned and the love I felt for her came back when I woke up. Can anyone help? I appreciate these dreams, and I feel good about them, but they seem like a plague. At one point, she appeared in my dreams for 3 nights in a row.

Answer 1

Maybe its your guilt for saying those things that hurt her.

Answer 2

It's just your sub conscience getting over her

Answer 3

you could be scared of hurting and/or being hurt if you were to enter into a relationship with the new girl, and your old memories (that are both painful and wonderful) are reminding you of what could happen.

IF you believe in spiritual communication, then the old girl could be harassing you. or making sure you dont enter into a new relationship, if she really will never forgive you.

ps: you probably want the old girl to forgive you, and maybe youre reminding yourself that the new girl doesnt quite compare to her.

Answer 4

J  MAN UP!!  

I think you have some unresolved issues with the first girl but those may never be able to be addressed if you don't have any contact with her.  I think that it was a pretty one sided love affair if you could say something and that would cause her to break it off with you. I am not telling you to close the door but I am telling you not to sit in the window waiting for her to come around.

The new girl is a good start but don't look at her as a replacement.  Also keep your feelings a little more protected and save yourself some heartache.  Instead of looking for a new girl, you should date a few of them so that you can be friends with many and end up in love with one.  To be in love, takes both people feeling the same way.  Don't jump in too fast and make sure the feeling is mutual before you let her know how you feel.

Now about those dreams, you miss the good times and there is nothing wrong with that.  The key is to recognize them for what they are and put them in perspective.  Don't obsess about them just get up and go on with your day.  It's obvious you like them so why make them into something bad.  Whatever you do, don't share them with the new girl.  That is relationship suicide.  No matter what she says, if she cares about you she will be jealous and hurt.