Girl in gym won't stop staring at my fiance.

Question

I am in my mid 20's engaged to a man the same age and I am going through something a 19 year old goes through. There is a woman at the gym, my age or so, she is there every night like we are, same time, and continuously stares at my fiance. She will look at me, then look at him, and keep staring. I have told him about it, and he said he hasn't even noticed. Normally I am so into my workout, I wouldn't either, but I accidentally saw once so now I pay attention. The point is, it drives me nuts. Back in my 19 year old days, I would have been really up front and said something already but it's just not that way anymore. My fiance said to say something if it made me uncomfortable but I feel like that would make the issue even worse. Any help?

Answer 1

Ignore her. Or - if you're braver then I am - go up and ask if she has a problem.

Answer 2

It's obvious from what you wrote that your fiance has no interest in her. SO what's the problem.

Just because he is betrothed to you doesn't mean that he is invisible. People are allowed to star at whom they chose. It's part of living in a free country. It sounds like you aren't really that secure with your relationship. You should be flattered. Another woman is clearly jealous over your fiance. YOUR fiance. Not hers. Let her stare... be smug in the fact that at the end of the gym session he's going home with you and not her. Maybe even bask in the glory that he's yours and lay some displays of affection on him while she's looking... that might turn out to be a deterrant of her stares.

Ultimately if it's too much of a problem... there are other gyms out there.

Answer 3

If it's really freaking you out, change gym hours, change gym, change fiance.  Do something.  

Answer 4

She's starting at him, not sleeping with him.  Get over it.

Answer 5

Honestly I don't think you need to worry too much about it. I personally recommend changing gym hours, but if that's not possible, it doesn't hurt to go up politely and talk to her about it. Kind of like, "Hey, I don't know if I'm imagining it or not, but I sometimes feel that you're staring in our direction and it's makes me feel uncomfortable."