Girl troubles? Am I too far into the "friend zone"?

Question

Hi,

I've had a good friend for the past 3 years, and we have always gotten along. I would certainly consider said girl to be my best girl "friend". The thing is, I have liked her all these 3 years, I'm just so shy when I would come to asking her out on a date. Another thing is that her and I go to the coffee shop, swimming, to a restaurant all the time and we always can talk the night away. I'm afraid that I'm just so far into the "friend zone" that I have no hope of having a successful relationship with this wonderful girl.

Also, I'm a Junior in High School, so even if we did get together, it might end when we go to college.

Any words of advice for this confused guy with a huge crush on his best friend?

Answer 1

you know, sometimes its really great to be friends first. but there is a guy i am really really close friends with ,and i couldnt imagine dating him. i love him...as a best friend

but maybe in the time you've been friends, she developed feelings,too.

so if you never try, you'l never know.

if she says no to you, its ok. you have nothing to lose, its not like she'll stop being your friend.

and if she says yes, you'll be the happiest guy alive.

just go for it!

Answer 2

You are probably too far in...and if you try to become her boyfriend, you may lose her as a friend forever and things will just be awkward for you if your attempt fails...but if you think its worth it, go for it.  

I wouldn't tell her out of the blue you have feelings for her though, that would completely freak her out.  I'd probably just start flirting with her, you know poking her or whatever and have her flirt back...then maybe when you two are alone or something and touching one another (nonsexually), just randomly ask her if you have something in your eye...she'll look close...then give her a kiss on the mouth really quick.  That will be the deciding point depending on how she reacts...but that's how I'd play it out.  

Answer 3

hun, your are really far into the friend zone but what you can do is start flirting easy...backing out of the friend zone and going into he maybe more then a guy friend zone then you can flirty hard start makin moves this will totally get out to go out also yea i ithnk you should give it a try wat do you have to loose sence you'll be goin to collage

Answer 4

In ten years, think of how much you'll regret never knowing if she felt the same way. Take a chance and go for it! You only get one life to live... But there's always risk involved. Figure out what's most important to you and go with your instinct. Good luck to you!