Girl whose mother have ignored her because of her colour?

Question

So the mother was light-skinned and the girl turned out to be mixed looking dark skin. (Everyone is of same race here but diff shades).

That's not a problem but now as I am grew up thinking lighter is better colour to have. I feel obsessed to be that way. and problematically enough , father does not ignore but had acknowledged that- that skin colour is not good.

(This is not north America).

and this doesn't even stop here, I found that guys don't even find me good if I have the natural skin. but in case, when I use some lightener I find that a lot of guys hit on.

What am I supposed to do? i find it very hard pressured to be this situation?

Answer 1

There's something wrong with them, not you. Each of your parents had to have had dark-skin gene in order for you to have it.

Don't use skin lightener (or at least make sure it doesn't contain mercury).

As for the guys, just wait for one to come along who likes you the way you are.

I always used to get teased in grade school because I was the only multiracial kid, and I used to feel really bad about it, but then I switched to a private school, where pure whites were a minority.

There will always be someone who accepts you. You just have to look.

Answer 2

Sad to say SOME people are obsessed with skin color..Actually it is a total distraction from the important things in life.. If one is interested in another strictly for the color of their skin,,you are dealing with a shallow person,,and not worthy of your time or emotions.. If it takes make up to make YOU feel good,,use it..If your using it to cover color,,then your living a lie,,and do you REALLY want to be with someone who is liking you for COLOR ?? Be yourself,,your beautiful with how you were born..One day someone besides me will tell you that and they will love you for YOU.. You could be "blue",,and they would still love you..See what I mean??LOVE is not skin deep,,but who and what you are..Always remember that !! And make up is fine and good,,if it makes you feel and look the way you want to,,but don't use it as a facade!!  (something that makes you something your not)  SOLOMON

Answer 3

I think you should be comfortable just as you are. Regardless of who finds you attractive, I doubt that the relationships are worth it if they like you for a skin tone that isn't yours. Then, you know that it's all about the physical.

And about that mother, I know it may be hard to accept that her daughter isn't who she hoped she would be in terms of physical appearance, but you shouldn't let that affect you, your sense of beauty, and your confidence about being liked.

You know you're beautiful without the lightener. Try being yourself that way. You may lose the admirers, but if that's the reason they liked you, then it was all shallow anyway.  

Answer 4

I feel really bad for you that you have to put up with that terrible behaviour. I wish you could go and live in a place where skin color doesn't matter.   Please somehow keep  your sanity until  you can move away!!!