GirlFriend Rape issues?

Question

ok im 22 and my gf 19. shes amazingly pretty and really nice. a couple of weeks ago she went out with her friends and was raped, i wont go into detail about it but she didnt tell any1 till it was to late to get evidence. since then shes become really depressed, she doesnt like me touching her not even for a cuddle and crys if i leave her on her own. shes got a counciler and is gettin help but its not working. i dont no how to act around her coz shes not the same girl as before. i really love her and would never desert her at a time like this, but its wearing me down and i dont no what the h**l i can do to help her. please give me some advice

Answer 1

She's not going to want to be touched very much after that. No matter how much she loves you she is going to be scared of any guy touching her.

Give her her space and let her come to you. But be there for her when she needs you. If she doesn't want you to leave then do something together like watch tv. But sit apart. If she wants to cuddle she will come to you.

Just make sure she knows that you are there for her and that you aren't going anywhere. And when she is ready to talk or whatever that you will be there.

Kudos to you on being so supportive!

Answer 2

Sorry to hear that, but this was a traumatizing experience and it'll take some time to get over it, not only a few weeks, but maybe even years, just stay with her and get her through it, she may never be totally better but the best advice is just to help her, and pray.

Answer 3

Im sorry 2 hear that.But chances r ur gf needs sum space.And you're right if u really love her, dont desert her right now.B with her.If she doesnt want u 2 touch her then dont.Just talk 2 her.Let her know that u would never harm her and that u just want her 2 b happy.Time and space is wat she needs.Support her wen she needs it.Tell her 2 keep going 2 her counselor.Just do anything 2 make her happy.I really hope ur gf gets better, best of luck!

Answer 4

Counseling isn't going to just work overnight. It takes MONTHS if not YEARS to get over something like that. You have to give her space and don't push her.

Answer 5

Continuously put yourself in her position and ask yourself what you'd need done and what you'd want from you. sounds funny but try it.